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Did you have an orgasm when giving birth?

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LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 18/03/2009 22:46

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1163027/Is-taboo-childbirth-Yes-Yes--Yes-.html

Surely this is highly unlikely, bet there's none on here who had one during birth.

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BigusBumus · 26/03/2009 14:03

Hello... i had a definate orgasm during the birth of my 2nd son.... and have never really mentioned it to anyone as i thought people's reactions would be strange.

I, like the previous poster who said they had had one also, had a very short labour, was 9cm dilated on arrival at hospital. I jumped in the birthing pool and gave birth 20 minutes later, also standng up (kind of, with bent legs) - in complete contrast to my first birth experience which was horrendous.

During the Transition phase i went really cold and shook all over, then knew i wanted to push, so i gave one push and his head was born. It was during that push that it happened and took me totally by surprise.

But it was not the crashing wave, fierce, sexy type orgasm you get after lots of foreplay and usually accompnied by filthy fantasty . It was much more subtle, but the building crescendo through the body, centering on your vagina/clitoris was the same. It was like a sneeze building up, a pleasureable feeling that washed over me, but although it was an unexpected nice feeling, it WASN'T REMOTELY SEXY!!!! It was totally unrelated to sex, more of a reaction to the intense things going on in my body at the same time. And it only lasted the same as a normal orgasm - not that i've timed mine, so don't really know... 25 seconds-ish?

So,am i a freak?

DrNortherner · 26/03/2009 14:04

I did. I squirted too.

LuJay · 26/03/2009 14:06

I think what i had was the exact oposite of an orgasm.

ShrinkingViolet · 26/03/2009 14:06

all three of mine were sections, so I would be rather worried if I had

electra · 26/03/2009 14:11

Giving birth is so intense that it seems normal to me that people can get orgasmic sensations. I'm sure someone posted on here once about a massage they had which triggered an orgasm and that she was angry with the masseur because he knew exactly what he was doing and it had been involuntary for her!

electra · 26/03/2009 14:11

lol SV

zazen · 26/03/2009 14:54

I had orgasmic labour.
I was having amazing (unsexy) waves of feeling when contractions were happening. It totally rocked!

I don't often mention it, for fear of upsetting other mothers, who maybe didn't have any pleasure in their labours, but I enjoyed the labour, and riding those waves.

I suppose I would describe the pleasure akin to the feeling you get with a good sneeze, or the pleasure from having a good poo. So not very sexual, but very pleasurable none the less.

I think the Judaeo / Christian / Muslim mind is conditioned to think of the body (and especially a woman's body) as inherently disgusting and shameful, and our sense of pleasure and wonder is diminished because of that mis-belief.

As a Buddhist, we are taught that Buddha nature indwells in all sentient beings, and therefore there is no need for disgust at the body, or shame of its natural functions, including arousal.
When I was breastfeeding I would have milk let down at random moments - not just when thinking of my baby, or feeding her.
When I was pregnant I had many spontaneous orgasms, and a very high libido.

It would be interesting to read of Animist / Shaman beliefs about and experiences of birth and whether their feeling of revulsion and disgust with the idea of natural orgasms during birth is the same as most 'prudish' readers of this newspaper article have expressed...

This article in the paper has a curious angle I think - to make woman feel inadequate (yet again) about their bodies and their experience, and I hope no one is feeling upset that I enjoyed my labour, pregnancy and breastfeeding let down, if they did not.

I think it is important to remember, that these reported orgasms are not 'rubbish', or false. They are a valid experience of some women, and should be respected as such.

AnnieLobeseder · 26/03/2009 17:38

I find it easy enough to believe this could happen. What I found somewhat harder to believe, on reading a website about unassisted labour, was the notion that all women should find labour sexual, and should orgasm, and you should in fact get your DP to stimulate your clitoris while you bear down so that baby pops out with a great big oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh!!. Bizarre! If DH had even tried to touch my nether regions while I was in labour, I'd have bitten his hand off!

MamacitaGordita · 26/03/2009 18:50

I heard the director of this film speak, and have seen the film twice. She wanted to make a film about childbirth that portrayed it as pleasurable, powerful and good, belonging to women, IYSWIM, rather than the hell it is usually portrayed as. I disagree with the whole 'oh great another thing to fail at' view- an attitude that birth can be pleasurable is a drop in the ocean of current views of birth as medical, dangerous, excruciating etc. It can be medical and excruciating but it isn't always. Women who have positive experiences are almost embarassed to talk about it.

The director said she used 'Orgasmic' in the sensual, whole-body amazingness way, and used the example of how you might say, 'oh that chocolate was just orgasmic.' Only one woman in the film has an actual orgasm, the others have strong, 'good' feelings and enjoy labour. They wanted to call the film 'An Everyday Miracle' and could not get funding- so they changed it to something sensational and have made sure lots of people are talking about the possibility of birth being something other than frightening...

keepmumshesnotsodumb · 26/03/2009 21:02

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zazen · 26/03/2009 22:34

(You must have been wearing a white merkin Keepmumshesnotsodumb!)

I didn't get to the crowning stage unfortunately - had a crash cesarean before that - but I enjoyed the labour when I was left alone with a lovely midwife, and my Dh.

shortcircuit · 26/03/2009 23:36

..glad some mums have had similar experience, perhaps the key is being upright/standing up ?

also there with the milk let down.

SparklingSarah · 26/03/2009 23:49

actually it can does and has happened.
just because you all allowed people to take over your births rush about freaking out strapping machines and shooting drugs into you doesn't mean there aren't women out there who take control and say bollocks to you this is my body - our birth it will go how my baby and I choose.

google Laura Shanley

I had a pain free second birth I felt very high for the duration - the scary bit was ringing the labour ward to send a midwife knowing my bubble was about to be burst.

I went into labour had my tea sent my daughter to bed closed my website emailed any outstanding customers to say your stuff will be with you in a few days.
rang a friend had a quick chat with some friends in a chat room went for a bath read a book whilst I waited hubby massaged me got me cool drinks contractions were hard so rang the midwife started to bear down decided sex was probably not a good move!
next 20 minutes I was the proud mummy to a new baby boy eating egg on toast in bed hubby and midwife with a can of beer and my daughter whinging the baby was not a sister!

TheCrackFox · 26/03/2009 23:57

"just because you all allowed people to take over your births rush about freaking out strapping machines and shooting drugs into you doesn't mean there aren't women out there who take control and say bollocks to you this is my body - our birth it will go how my baby and I choose."

Good for you, but you sound a tad smug, dear.

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Ronaldinhio · 27/03/2009 06:47

twaddle

coochicoo · 27/03/2009 07:55

Childbirth is such an individual thing for everyone. There are no facts about it. My first (induced) hurt like hell. My second (home waterbirth) didn't hurt. I felt my body pushing but I wouldn't describe it as painful. I didn't have an orgasm but I know someone who did. Why does it have to be so far out of the realms of possibility, just because it didn't happen personally? Just because one person has a terrible painful labour doesn't mean that someone else can't have a pleasurable pain free one does it?

I don't think all these stories about how painful childbirth is are helpful to expectant mothers. It doesn't help if we go into it fearful and expecting pain.

Similarly, I've never had an orgasm through penetrative sex, but I know there are people who do. Just because it doesn't happen to me doesn't mean that everyone who talks about it is lying.

MamacitaGordita · 27/03/2009 08:08

Well said coochicoo

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maxbear · 27/03/2009 09:53

I have to say I enjoyed my labours in an achievement way, may have sounded orgasmic, but in NO WAY felt it. I think that sometimes women do make noises whilst giving birth that sound similar to the sort of noises that sometimes happen whilst having sex/orgasms. For me that is where the similarity ended. I hope to have another baby one day so you never know, maybe next time?!

FragileMum · 27/03/2009 13:42

I remember going to NCT prenatal classes and the teacher/lady saying she'd had an orgasm when she gave birth. She said it was something to do with where the baby's head touched. Mind you she'd had a fair bit of 'practice' after 5 kids. She also mentioned having mixed feelings about being stitched up afterwards by a very attractive male midwife.

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