seriously, though, there's a lot of blame and abdication of responsibility that a lot of people pick up in the home. it's a culture of enabling nad entitlement and it really doesn't help in the long run.
the: 'oh, poor you' or 'he/she had a bad upbringing', depression, addiction, even some disabilities.
it's not an excuse but if you keep telling people that or making them believe that well then you wind up with a real mess on your hands.
because motivation - even to turn on a cooker - has to come from inside at one level or another.
it's like stopping smoking, you can nag a person from now till the world ends but if they don't really want to be a non smoker it won't work. that's why i never nag smokers like DH. it's pointless.
been depressed. am now. fucking hard as hell just to go peg out the wash. but who's going to do it then? why make my kids pay for that? it's not their fault and if i wanted to wallow then i shouldn't have had kids.
disability. i hate it when people use this because it makes discriminating against people like DH and DD1 excusable. there are some disabilities of course that preclude a person from doing basic things in life, of course. but to assume all people with disabilities have the excuse of not needing to function or participate fully in society burns me up because it's not true and it's a waste!
dh watched that Jamie show and kept saying, 'If David Blunkett could cook a meal from start to finish when he can't see anything then these folks have no excuse.'
and you know, it's sort of true!
if you enable people to be hopeless, well, you reap what you sow.