Baby died after night nanny gave Piriton

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Just read this story and really shocked.

Is it normal practice for night nannies to give 8 week old babies antihistamines to sedate them? Appalling.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/czd77edm8g1o

The coroner said they considered it was 'likely' the nanny -seems a reasonable conclusion to draw if they were responsible for taking care of the baby overnight and was feeding them. I think your post is a very cheap shot against the parents who have lost their newborn in such tragic circumstances. Why would a parent hire a night nanny and then sedate their baby... so the nanny has an easy night? That's ludicrous. But this whole thread is biased against parents who use night nannies, so hardly surprising.

‘Likely’, but with no evidence. It is absolutely awful for the parents who have lost their child, of course. But no one seems to think how awful it would be for the nanny if she didn’t actually do it and is seeing it all reported as if it was actually found she did, not just a ‘she may have done’ as it actually is.

Absolutely nothing against parents who hire night nannies, caring for a newborn is tough nevermind when you’ve had no sleep, if a night nanny means parents can get some sleep so they are able to function better to care for the baby during the day then that’s no bad thing!

Saw this surley this should of already been on place!
Such a tragic loss for familes absolutely unbelievable that there is no official madatory regulation for nannies, maternity nurses or tutors!

Petition: More regulation for home-based childcare: nannies, maternity nurses & tutors
https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/765427

I know the maternity nurse and association and the National Nanny Association have had meetings regarding this as alot of people are not happy,

Clarity would go a long way

Petition: More regulation for home-based childcare: nannies, maternity nurses & tutors
https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/765427

Petition: More regulation for home-based childcare: nannies, maternity nurses & tutors
https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/765427

I never used a night nanny but if I had been able to afford it, maybe I would have done. Sleep
deprivation had a huge impact on my mental and physical health. Which is the bigger risk to a baby? A night nanny or a mum who is utterly exhausted to the point she possibly shouldn’t be driving the kids around? I don’t know the answer but I’m not judging people who use this type of service- I expect most of them believe they are doing the best thing for their child, and maybe they are. Without assessing all the various risks on both sides, it’s hard to say and therefore hard to judge.

I don't find it hard to judge, honestly. My DD has slept through the night once in 3 and half years, and I have worked full time since she was 6 months old (her dad was SAHP until she turned 3). Last year I was hospitalied for a recurrent infection caused by sleep deprivation. So I know full well how diffcult it is, and that exceptional circumstances occur. I am not against childcare, or putting things in place to give parents a break, but I draw the line at paying someone to comfort a child (a newborn, especially) at night. Can people not cast their own minds back to how desperately they wanted their mother as a child waking from a nightmare? Parenting is hard, and sleep deprivation is hard, but if you want an easy life, don't have children.

I mean you sound superhuman @Soontobesingles! Good for you feeling safe to drive and function even when you were severely sleep deprived. I didn’t feel safe.

What I’m saying is that there are risks with either scenario and you don’t seem to have acknowledged that.

You also haven’t acknowledged that your sleep-deprived hospitalisation presumably separated you from your child/ren for a period of time, despite your belief that a child needs its parents close. Or was that ok because your child wasn’t a newborn? Some might judge you for that. (I’m not, to be clear).

I mean I literally described the effects of sleep deprivation so I am not sure how that is not acknowledging the risks. My point is: that's parenting.

My child was with my husband (her dad) when I was in hospital, not a stranger I paid.

I understand that there are single disabled parents, widows with sleep apnea and one leg and so on, who have no other option, but always in these cases everyone likes to pretend they are some outlying exception to the rule, when in almost all cases, what is actually going on is wealthy people opting out of the hard work of stepping up to the responsibilities that they chose. Parenting is hard. That's it. If you don't want to do the hard work of parenting, don't have children.

I mean you literally said that you were hospitalised but didn’t mention the risks of driving while sleep deprived, or the risk of mental health breakdown potentially leading to poor parenting. So no, you didn’t acknowledge all the risks.

But as you said, you don’t find it hard to judge. I don’t find it very hard to judge you as being someone with very rigid views. I also judge you for seemingly blaming parents for the death of their child after leaving the child in the care of a professional child carer.

Despite saying earlier that I could have used a night nanny, I doubt I would have done. I was an extended bfer, co-sleeper and a SAHM for many years. Using a night nanny would have been at odds with my approach to parenting. But others make different choices and manage to raise children that are as healthy and happy as my young adult children are.

We won’t agree on this clearly!