mothers will never get it right

[belgo]

here in the Daily mail just to warn you.

It's actually quite good.

Oh god that's spot on
I wonder if she lurked the boards here before she wrote it?

so badly written though, i couldn't finish it.

about pregnancy:

'So you embark on all this abstinence and turn away the wine bottle and the cheese board whenever you're out to dinner, or even lunch; and do you know what?

A whole lot of people (usually from the next generation up) will tell you that they all drank a bottle of wine nightly and ate a whole brie and went on to have 17 healthy children. '

god that was turgid
and nonsense, mostly.

well I did warn you it's the Daily mail

Even though that is the Daily Mail there are quite alot of true things there!

"Whether his arrival took place in a brilliantly lit delivery room with a crowd of medics in attendance (I had four medical students when my first daughter was born and it could have been 40 for all I cared), or in your own candlelit bedroom with music playing and scented candles, won't actually matter very much at this stage."

well that's bolleaux for a start. how a woman gives birth can have a serious ongoing effect on her health and her state of mind

The sentiment is a good one but there's lots of silly generalistations in there.

I think the bulk of it is spot on. Mostly kids survive and turn out OK, no matter what you do. It's always been that way.

What parents need is confidence they are doing it right and those that do are happier. All this guilt and worry is completely pointless. i think I was protected against it to some extent by not really mixing with other mothers with babies as I had mine quite young and I suppose just knowing inside I was doing it okay anyway, a good enough job. But we do need to learn - I am sure most of know that caning children until they bleed for example which was standard practice in the 1880s might not be best and the fact we don't do that now is not because we just have a different fad but that that was just plain wrong. Same with babies to sleep on their backs - it cut cot deaths and we needed to know that research. Smoking in pregnancy probably not very wise either. Ditto cocaine.

"how a woman gives birth can have a serious ongoing effect on her health and her state of mind"

so you'll support women like me who choose an elective CS then?

yes highlander, you know I do.
a woman has a right to an informed choice