school stabbing

[sixlostmonkeys]

I've just had a phone call telling me about this news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/west_yorkshire/7222183.stm

my ds is in that school. and I'm sitting here - what do I do? panic? be assured that its all very safe now with the police being there? what?
He's 11, is he frightened? does he need me? will it be worse if I go and take him out?

must be very worrying for you.

i don't know, that's awful, do you know any other parent's to call? tbh i'd be up there.

don't know anyone.
don't know what to do

Oh how worrying sixlostmonkeys. Imagine you can't wait to get him home.

there probably isn't much you can do if you go up, what time do they finish?

Get to the school, i imagine all lessons will be all over palce now, best to have children hom, theyll be scared!

sorry didnt read link first, didnt know it was another pupil!!..i would still at least call and ask head/secretary if your dd is ok(he may have seen it?)

according to all the news reports it all calm and lessons as normal.

going to get him may cause him more anguish?

why can't we keep our kids safe like when they were babies all wrapped up and snuggled? My instinct is to want to do this all the time, forever and I feel so lost and useless now

It sounds as though it is all over now. Would ds call you if he was worried/wanted to come home?

2 hours till they finish

yes, he would call if he needed/wanted to. I'm sure if he witnessed it they would have called me

phone the school and get an idea of the atmosphere. they can tell you if things are carrying on as normal.

if all is ok, leave him. keep it normal. if you go in and take him you'll be telling him there is something to be scared of and could really freak him out. normality, familiarity. the teachers will handle it sensitively without scaring them.

my first reaction would have been to go up there, but thinking about it i guess there isn't anymore you can do at the moment. try to stay calm until he tells you what happened.

soon schools will all need metal detectors before the kids can even get through the door. it's so worrying isn't it.

Have you rung the school?

could you go to the school and collect him right now. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

Please try not to panic, you know that he wasn't directly involved, because the school would have contactd you.

I would arrange to be there to pick him up at the end of the school day if you can.

Don't go and take him out, but take him home at the end of the day. have a nice tea and let him talk about it when he is ready

I would be tempted to go and get him if he was fine.

I hope all are okay.

mine not fine

I think being in school right now and seeing for himself that all has returned to 'normal' is best for him.

If you go and take him out, it may well increase his anxiety about the event.

I often find that when something awful happens, talking it 'out' with other people who were there at the time is really important. A kind of feeling that if you weren't there you don't 'get it'!

I would make a bit of a fuss of him when he gets home though - my mum would have done tea and cream cakes in this kind of circumstances

Agree, soapbox, talking it out with his mates will be a good thing to do at the moment.

I would flatter him a bit too!

'I did think about coming and taking you home as soon as I heard about what happened, but I know you are growing up and was confident that if you were really worried and needed me, you would have called'

thanks - all good sense.

i'll prepare a nice dinner while I'm pacing in the ice cold house - emptying the bucket that is catching the water from the broken central heating boiler.......

Just heard that the boy is stable.

any update on this?
how's your ds?
how's the boy doing?