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Ever wished you had not read something which you cannot then get out of your head ?

27 replies

Haylo · 28/12/2007 14:19

Not strictly a news item but l just checked my facebook messages and one friend has just posted a request to sign a petition against allowing the killers of Jamie Bulger to receive lifetime anonimity and new lives in Australia ... bad enough but he also gave some detail of what they did to that poor little lad and now l cannot get it out of my mind, l knew it was bad, but apparently the press only reported some of it... just awful and now with 2 kiddies of my own 2.5 and 5 months this kind of thing effects me more deeply and l cannot stop thinking of that poor boy what he went through and his Mum. Anyone else feel the same ??

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ibroughtxmascake · 28/12/2007 14:23

I know the message you mean as somebody posted it on my facebook too.

I know it sounds lame but just try to put it out of your mind, I tend not to watch so much news anymore as I was finding that I couldn't forget things I had heard.

fortyplus · 28/12/2007 14:23

Jamie Bulger was killed around the time that my ds1 was born and yes - it took a long time for the images to fade from my mind. The details of the case have been written about since then, but naturally not reported in the press prior to their trial.

I think a petition of this nature is misguided, though. It has no basis in law so I don't know what your friend or those who started the petion are hoping to achieve.

JeremyVile · 28/12/2007 14:24

That message is ridiculous and riddled with inaccuracies.

I don't know the details of what that poor baby went through, but when I had the misfortune to read that FB thing I just told myself that the details of the attack were most likely inaccurate also.

Whether it is true or not - in this case - ignorance is preferable.

Hekate · 28/12/2007 14:25

Yes. I had an email a while back - one of those chain mail things. It was an anti-abortion thing and it had a very VERY disturbing picture. Every time I closed my eyes I saw it so clearly and I was VERY upset.

I get really really angry with people who send such things, tbh.

It is not about burying your head in the sand, but rather having control over what you view, not having it thrust at you without being able to prepare yourself first.

themoon66 · 28/12/2007 14:32

that petition has been travelling round the internet for years now. It's too late... the two boys were let out years ago.. Just delete it and try to do something nice with your LOs.

I know what you mean though. James Bulger was only a few months younger than my DS at the time and I unfortunately read pages and pages of details and filled myself with horror and distress. I remember reading the times on the train between kings cross and newark. Did the whole journey with tears streaming down my face.

My DS is 16 now and I still remember the details.

In fact... when i saw your thread title I clicked on it thinking 'oh yes.. James Bulger'!

VictorianSqualor · 28/12/2007 14:33

I can't watch anything about the tsunami as my DS was born a few days after it happened as everything was unfolding in the news, with stories of people losing their children. I remember the day he was born thinking how could I choose whether to let go of him or his sister and the unimaginable grief they must have gone through. Still haunts me now.

I didn't read the Jamie Bulger email as I'd already heard about it. I am sorely tempted to start a chain mail informing everyone that his killers have had a new life for ages, the there is no such thing as a sterilisation drug used on horses, so no-one has been raped and sterilised with it, that email round robin type things do not stand up anywhere as a proper petition, that the people everyone keeps saying not to add because they are hackers are just normal people that have had a falling out with the original poster and to think about what they post before they do it.

evenhope · 28/12/2007 15:16

At church the other week we were asked to pray for a family whose 18 yo had died suddenly at university from a blood clot. I have a DS at Uni and a DD who has recently graduated, as well as a DS of 18 due to go off next September. I can't stop thinking about how awful it must be to send your DS off expecting to see him at Christmas and then for him to die before you see him again

Also Dunblane. My DCs were at primary school when that happened and again it was the thought of leaving your DD at school, perhaps having had an argument, and never seeing her again

southeastastra · 28/12/2007 15:24

there are tons of things that i know too many details of but you have to sort of find somewhere to store it away and try to leave alone.

it's worse since having children, evil goes on in this world but if i worried about it i think i'd go insane.

LuckyStarOfBethSalem · 28/12/2007 15:30

The Jamie Bulger email.
There was a story in the sun (whether you believe it or not) about somewhere that was actually slaughtering old riding school ponies for meat (pictures and everything)
Also there was something on FB about a really beautiful girl who had had a car accident (not her fault) and had suffered really bad burns everywhere,

All those are just off the top of my head, I hate reading the news and sometimes wish I could just stop myself from doing it.

fortyplus · 28/12/2007 18:07

The old riding school ponies thing is likely to be true, as young thoroughbred racehorses that are injured or not fast enough often end up going for slaughter.

But is that any worse than the dairy industry? Cows need to have calves to produce milk for us - the male calves are often shot at or within a day or two of birth.

MummyDoItUnderTheMistletoe · 28/12/2007 18:33

I read a story in the newspaper after the Boxing Day Tsunami about a mother who was holding her two children, couldn't hang on to both and had to make a decision to let one go. That gives me nightmares. I have two DSs and how could I choose between them? That particular story has a happy ending as the child she let go was rescued by someone else and they were reunited but it still makes me feel sick to think about being in that situation. The other one which makes me feel physically sick was when I watched a programme about Hiroshima where survivors were interviewed and one mother described how she was in her flat and her daughter was trapped. She couldn't reach her to rescue her and had to listen to her die as the flames reached her. Truly horrible.

yurt1 · 28/12/2007 18:35

oh weird. As I opened this post I was thinking 'the only thing was the detail I read in a paper about how they killed Jamie Bulger and what they did beforehand'. I read it years ago and wish I hadn't. Truly awful.

Reallytired · 28/12/2007 23:39

What happened to Jamie Bulger was horrific. I don't want to read the details.

However the boys who committed the attocity were children themselves. They were 10 years old.

There are some people who want revenge on these men, years after they spent time in jail for the crime. In a civilised country people are not allowed to exact their own revenge. It is better to allow a judge to decide what to do with truely evil people than The Sun or the Internet.

The fact is that murderers, paediophiles and rapists are released from jail every year. Some of these people were a lot older than these 10 year olds and the crimes that they commited were every bit as bad. The difference is that they have not had the level of press that the bulgar case had.

Murdering these two men will not bring back Jamie Bulger. Two wrongs do not make a right. These men need anominity for their own safety.

mustrunmorewantsanewname · 28/12/2007 23:49

Me too; another person who knew exactly what this would be about. so hard to get out of your head.
A close second for me was that guy who got his leg trsapped in the floods and they couldn't free him before he died. Thats just so horrendously unexpected in this country IYSWIM.

MulledWino · 29/12/2007 00:09

That "petition" isn't even a valid one. I looked into this when I was writing an essat featuring James Bulger's murderers. It's not been valid for a long time. And some of the details contained in this info are not correct. They have been "added to" to "glorify" the report.

Don't have anything to do with it and tell you Facebook friends not to either.

Aitch · 29/12/2007 00:14

a lot of the stuff in the press and in that stupid, crass email (which is actually only passed on by morons) was just made up anyway. forget about it, you've been had and in the most distasteful way possible, using a small boy's tragic death to rabble-rouse.

ELF1981 · 29/12/2007 09:31

I am on facebook and sometimes wish I wasn't, I get a lot of chain mails which upset me.

I have had the Jamie Bulger one. I have had a "poem" about a young boy who gets beaten and killed by his dad. I have had several chains about cancer patients. I have had some on Madeleine McCann.

They upset me, and I hate the ones that say pass on or you're evil / get bad luck etc, but I delete them. Most of my facebook friends are parents, and I imagine if I dont like them, they wont either.

A friend of mine got a chain mail email saying something along the lines of she'd have awful bad luck if she didn't send it on to a million people (or something stupid) but she received it the day before she was due to have her second scan when pregnant, and it really upset her. Some people just dont think!

bippyhippy · 26/07/2010 23:16

Haylo, I know this thread is years old - r u still around?

I found it through a search on James Bulger's name. I recently was sent all the information on what happened to him and now I feel like I'm going mad with the sadness.

I keep crying. I have a nearly 2 yo and a 4yo. Maybe that's why.

I was out and should have been having a great time with my boys over the weekend but the way that James died just kept replaying in my head. The way he kept getting back up after they struck him and crying for his mummy. The things they did to him.

I don't care about the killers really. I understand the debate. They weren't normal ten year olds. But just James, I can't really bear the pain he went through. Although it's nothing to do with me or my life.

It's just unbearable. I want to stop thinking about it but I can't. How do I switch it off?

LouMacca · 27/07/2010 09:55

I was pregnant with my twins when Holly Wells and Jessics Chapman went missing. It's something that I couldn't get out of my head for a long time. I was so emotional anyway and cried buckets when the bodies were found.

I still think of them, it's still so vivid in my mind. There are so many tragic and awful things that happen in the world and we just have to cuddle our babies that bit closer and remember that cases like some of the above are very rare. God bless Jamie and his family, so sad.

ZZZenAgain · 27/07/2010 09:59

yes

I find there is a lot I can't face/am not willing to read anymore. I didn't feel like that when I was younger but I do now

bippyhippy · 27/07/2010 13:27

I guess it's just being a mother... I was thinking the other day that there is no greater risk in life than becoming a parent. To take that risk is wonderful - the love and joy that you get make it worth it. But there is always that risk of losing them, of getting it wrong, of them being hurt... not that I dwell on it. But it just struck me really, that the pain of losing my child would be unbearable.. and it is a big position of responsibility and overwhelming love this parenting job!

bronze · 27/07/2010 13:32

For me its the Beslan School massacre. I can shut my eyes and see it. Problem was I was on maternity leave and couldn't turn news 24 off because I just wanted to know they were alright. And of course they weren't.

I try to avoid stuff now. I watch the local news and not national and just keep an eye on the headlines so I can keep abreast fo events

Sakura · 28/07/2010 08:14

2 women 1 cup, or whatever it was called.

Sakura · 28/07/2010 08:17

A recurring dream I have about a Japanese family . They were driving home late at night with their 3 kids in the backseat, when a drunk boy racer accidentaly ran their car off a bridge. The mother climbed up on the bridge again and again, jumping back into the water to try to find her children. I'm crying right now, writing it.
She had another baby, eventually, god bless her.

Sakura · 28/07/2010 08:19

That was a true story, but I have reccuring dreams about it