Was anyone else grieving whilst the Tories were laughing at us?

[Ostryga]

I’ve found the recent deluge of Tory info the last few days really fucking difficult.

My father died from lung cancer last year. There was 10 of us at his funeral, and no one could even hug for comfort.

To see them laughing, joking about their bullshit has just hit a nerve so deep. I am so angry, but without a way to do anything. I can send angry emails, sign petitions. But not a single Tory is ever going to care or apologise for my suffering.

I just can’t quite get over how we have all got to this place.

Yes. Mum was in hospital a month over Christmas, at her most ill and without us to comfort her. She then died. It was inhumane. While those ‘leading’ us basically did what the hell they felt like. And then lied and gaslighted.

Yes. My Dad died suddenly in the summer last year. We had about 20 people at his funeral but couldn’t have any gathering afterwards. I spent Christmas completely alone because only one of my siblings was able to stay overnight with my Mum due to the last minute change in rules regarding the number of households that could mix.

My DH didn't die until the summer, but he was in hospital receiving terrible news last December and wasn't allowed any visitors. He received the news that his cancer would be terminal alone, in hospital, by telephone because his consultant was shielding.

My nan died alone in hospital, we were allowed to visit her dead body but not before she passed.
30 people at the funeral i think? No wake.

She was an amazing woman, who deserved so much more.

A few months later a friend died with his family by his side from the same condition. It was purely luck that he spent his last hours with family and my beautiful nan spent hers alone in hospital. Her last 2 weeks actually. It is sickening and I will never forgive this government for making light of it.
Whats more is that I don't even give a shit about covid, I am young, fit, healthy. Had it and got over it fine. But it ruined the last year's if my nans life and she died in a way I wouldn't wish for my worst enemy. Scared and alone. Confused and alone. Just completely alone. We don't know if all of her needs were met. I know she was in pain.
Completely alone as she was too sick to use a phone or tablet. So she had no contact with her family or husband AT ALL for 2 weeks and then she died. How can Boris Johnson and those idiots laugh about it? Because they are monsters. They truly are monsters.

My Dm died in hospital just after Xmas from covid and wasn't allowed visitors but I don't feel that anyone was laughing at us. I'm angry that covid took her from us but I don't blame the government. It's a really shit situation and if it wasn't for covid she'd still be here but I don't think that's the governments fault. It's just shit wherever you are in the world right now

We buried my two year old daughter after the hospital misdiagnosed her and sent her home because they wanted her out of A&E due to covid. We turned people away from her funeral last December because of the rules. We grieved as a family but without our extended family in order to protect my elderly grandfather who lived alone and was devastated. He passed this year in hospital and we couldn't see him in hospital due to restrictions.

But these mad bastards can party. They can get fucked.

Not grieving as such, but my mum is in a care home and at that point I hadn’t seen her since February 2020 other than through a Perspex window.
And then you had Hancock swapping bodily fluids and I couldn’t even hold my mum’s hand.
I think that’s what I find most annoying, that they’re laughing at us idiots fir following the rules but they didn’t apply to them.

Yep. And while I was working in the NHS throughout.

Its not the Tories I'm surprised at, I always knew they were cowardly hypocrites. It's everyone else using this to wish they'd also flouted rules, or bragging that they did. I know that if people HAD followed the rules my parent would likely still be alive.

My mum
My sister

The sight of my father sat alone at the funeral of his daughter having lost his wife months earlier was awful.

I feel like my grief was suspended, trapped....all the normal things like spending time with your relative, meeting wider family and having support at the funeral. All not allowed. Whilst they party and joke.

Yes my Grannie died without her family around her and none of us could travel to her funeral. She did more for this country than Boris ever will. I'm furious.

One of my friends lost her husband to COVID. Only in his 30s otherwise fit and healthy. She and the children didn't see him for 11 weeks because of COVID rules and when they finally were allowed the young children didn't even recognise their dear dad.
He passed away after 13 weeks in hospital, most of it alone, the last two weeks on a ventilator then in a coma. Eldest child 14, youngest only a few months old at the time.
I feel such anger and utter frustration at Boris and his cronies and so upset for my friend and the multitude of others

Yes. I live in the US and could not get to my grandmother’s funeral in Liverpool because of the need to quarantine. She died alone in a nursing home, with her five adult kids at the window. Boris Johnson can eff of to the far side of Pluto, far as I’m concerned.

My god, I am so terribly sorry that all of you have had to go through this horribleness. I don’t know you, but .

These stories are so very sad.

@naynayisay

We buried my two year old daughter after the hospital misdiagnosed her and sent her home because they wanted her out of A&E due to covid. We turned people away from her funeral last December because of the rules. We grieved as a family but without our extended family in order to protect my elderly grandfather who lived alone and was devastated. He passed this year in hospital and we couldn't see him in hospital due to restrictions.

But these mad bastards can party. They can get fucked.

I honestly don't have the words to express how awful this must be for you. It feels empty to say sorry, but I am. So sorry this happened.

@naynayisay I am so sorry. I will pray for your family and your daughter.

Sympathies with everyone. I had a mum in Spain. I couldn’t get to her, she lived alone and got forgetful, I just watched her decline through the I pad. I couldn’t visit because of stupid fucking rules. She’s now in a home. And now it looks like I can’t go at Xmas. Utterly disgusted at Boris. Still he used to burn fivers in front of homeless people and be in the billing don club so what can we really expect.

These posts are heartbreaking to read x

I already felt immense anger at the inhumane circumstances so many families and individuals ideals have had to face.

They were laughing at us all and the fact they got away with having a party due whilst the rest of the UK were prevented seeing their families, loved ones and horrifically stopped from seeing the elderly and ill.

Crocodile tears of Allegra being caught out and vilified publicly. That's the reason for her tears . Or she would have been sobbing for the past 12 months.

And Boris believes himself to be above the law.

I did a week of nights and on call during the day at the hospital in icu because we had no staff I wasn't allowed to go home. 17 people died in that time on my shifts with no family allowed. I was with 8 of them and I held their hands, held iPads up so their families could say goodbye, I tried to find out their favourite music through the iPad talks so I could play it on my phone. It was awful and it sickens me that the government was getting jacked up on cocaine and cheese whilst we were struggling and patients were dying.

My Mum died from cancer in April 2020. We had 10 at her funeral, they counted us in and locked the car park gate behind us to prevent friends and extended family (who couldnt come inside, but wanted to be physically nearby) parking. They'd've been breaking the law; at that point you could only leave home for essential purposes. I'll never get my head round that one - sitting in your own parked car, wishing only to pay your respects to someone you've loved (and who loved you) for decades was against the law. The service itself was out of the ordinary, but lovely all the same.

My anger isnt with government ("the government you elect is the government you deserve"). I do though feel the urge to punch a wall whenever I hear someone say (and ive heard it said several times) that they 'quite enjoyed' the lockdowns.

@naynayisay that is utterly heartbreaking and I wish you all that strength and support.
My darling dads first language wasn’t English so my entire adult life I’ve accompanied him and my mum to hospital appointments. For six long weeks I had to see him through an iPad on machines while I helplessly battled for his care on the phone and dreaded the call to go into hospital because that would mean it was the end. I saw my mum fall apart because she was away from the man that she’d spent 40 years with while she also battled Covid. But none of her family were apparently allowed to visit either so we don’t mix households. This government is disgusting and they have so much blood on their hands.

These are all so heartbreakingly sad to read

I’m so sorry for all of your losses

I feel that these stories really must be read for us all to appreciate the enormity of what the government has done. Thank you for posting them, which must be hard in itself.

I do though feel the urge to punch a wall whenever I hear someone say (and ive heard it said several times) that they 'quite enjoyed' the lockdowns.

^^
I do think it is and always will be a terribly insensitive and tone deaf thing to say. By all means think it. Don’t say it.

These stories are heartbreaking. I didn’t spend last Christmas with my dad and it was his last. He died of cancer this year. He died with my mum holding his hand while wearing gloves and a mask because those were required at all times in the hospice (as if Covid was a risk to those already waiting to die). My mum sat alone at his funeral with all of her children made to stay 2m apart from her.

Boris and his cronies are awful, awful people. Anyone who votes Tory again is an awful, awful person.

My mum died, alone in a care home whilst those cunts partied. Utter utter cunts.

Shame on them