Domestic violence. Minor assault. Custodial sentence?

[GreedyGecko]

I'll try to keep this short. Last week DP assaulted me. I came out wiht a couople of bruises on my back and a couple on my arm. He was arrested as soon as police arrived. He admitted the assault in interview. Was very upset and apologetic. Had initial hearing yesterday, pleaded guilty, again very upset, stressed how sorry he is. He has now been told he is looking at a custodial sentence. This seems really harsh to me, especially as I was told by several different sources it would either be fine & compensation or anger mgmt classes.

Are they just trying to scare him? Or is he really likely to be looking at time? I feel sick thinking that he may be going to prison, especially as it'll be Winchester that he goes to.

done to you... not you you!

Hope your kids will be ok after witnessing that - poor little mites.

I hope you don't go back with him.

LewisFan @ "no permanent damage". So it's OK for him to have hit you just as long as there was no permanent damage!?! WTF

I definately won't be getting back with him. TBH the relationship has been overf for a while, just need to get him to understand what 'over' means.

Can I ask if he is required to attend on a domestic violence group for perpetrators??

I have had a drink or three so feel free to ignore, but if he belted you, whay are you worried about how he is punished?
He needs to be punished.
What's to say he wont do it again.

I have not read all posts and as i said am a tad tipsy, but of DH belted me and I called the cops, as much as I love him, whatever punishment they see fit, he deserves it?

I am guessing because there's a swirl of potentially contradictory thoughts and emotions going on. I could drone on about dualism in western philosophy, but I won't.. GG sounds satisfied as the victim of this horribleness, yes?

No he hasn't been referred to a domestic violence course. After speaking to officers at domestic violence unit & people from early interention programme that was what I was expecting (and hoping). IMO rehabilitation far better than chucking him in a cell for 23hrs a day. Was also hoping for a drugs referral from the police, but again that didn't happen.

LAdyoftheFlowers, not sure really why I was worried about the level of punishment, and since going to court I do feel they've gone quite easy on him. Their reasoning for the level of punishment is what really irks me though. They said that "due to the level of provocation involved" certain punishments weren't necessary, which I take as them saying its OK to kick someone & slam a door on them if they cheat on you. Yes I know I was wrong, but my infidelity should not be 'punished' by his assault.

Also meant to add that the neither magistrate or probation report seemed to take into account that he assaulted me not only in front of 2 young children, but whilst holding onto them. So they've basically witnessed their dad giving their mum a kicking, scaring the hell out of them, but as far as they can see he's received no punishment. They certainly didn't deserve to witness/be a part of that no matter what I have done.

ok you havnt done anything ffs!nothing you do gives a man the excuse to beat you and traumatise your poor little ones and i use the term man losely as he is clearly not one i hope for your sake and your kids he goes to jail if only to give you a chance to see things clearly

Sorry to hear that you didn't get justice GG. What he did to you was wrong and he should have been properly punished for it.

that IS poor, GG, on both their parts.

We have designated "DV" courts at Magistrates round these parts, but it hasn't raised the quality of what happens any. I suspect that Mags Courts vary wildly in 'culture' and this will come out in such matters.

they will want ot avoid prison I guess, but a group work requirement does seem apt. here.

I'm surprised he's not been ordered to attend a DV programme.