Times today: has feminism killed off our sex lives?

[mybabysinthegarden]

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I don't like that she's burdening feminism with the blame (hasn't it got a bad enough rep as it is?) but otherwise I think what she's saying makes a lot of sense.

no-one?

I think the article is bollocks.

People have problems with their sex lives (both men and women) but feminism isn't to blame and nor is the ability to be able to say 'no', to have a choice in their sex lives.

In BRitain today we work hugely long hours (in general), both men and women. We are more stressed than we have ever been. THis I think contributes to the problem for both MEN and WOMEN, not women solely.

I think to blame women for this problem (which essentially is what the article is doing) is ridiculous.

I know the article is shite.
Without even bothering to read it.

Clever, I am.

Clever iawn!

I agree. being financially tied to a man, and pregnant all the time, with little or no rights was soooooooooooooo sexy.

not

"Amanda, a 38-year-old photographer, bartered sexual favours with her live-in partner when he did a particularly difficult piece of DIY or nasty bit of graft, such as unplugging drains."

Hmm how very FEMINIST of her

This is mad

Basically she's equating sex life with a woman having sex even though she doesn't want to

It's rather more complicated than that, methinks

(p.s. why am I never in these relationships where men want sex all the time? dammit)

quite.

how are you MP, and moreover, where are you?

the land of our Father's or mediteranian?

hmm is that some sort of code? I don't get it

I hate how feminism gets blamed for all our modern ills, but I do think it's a fair point that it shouldn't exactly surprise you if you don't have sex for a year and then discover your partner's having an affair.

I don't think occasionally doing it when you don't feel 100% up to it is anti-feminist, I think it's just being considerate.

And yes, that Amanda should learn to unblock her own drains, quick time.

Hmmm, don't like the idea that feminsim is to blame for a lack of sex in relationships or that it is the responsibility of the female partner to ensure a happy sex life but I do agree that it shouldn't be the one area where discussion and compromise seems unacceptable.

Sometimes dp initiates sex when I'm not really in the mood but if I give it a chance then it can be great. I'm sure he does the same with me, if we waited until we were both raring to go then we'd not manage to have sex very often and we'd both be unhappy.

At the risk of sounding vulgar, I'd rather have a fuck than unblock a drain.

I would have thought that feminism has improved women's sex lives. We've got orgasms now. And rabbits.

It's just the usual feminism bashing but the article itself is saying (and this is nothing to do with feminism) that people withhold sex aren't aren't giving enough in relationships and I'm sure that's the case for some people, male and female.

There's also the quote from a woman that her ex boyfriend used to weigh her on Mondays and if she was over 9 stone he wouldn't have sex with her!

She should have got a ruler out and measured his todger. No sex unless it was longer than 10 inches. I bet that would have stopped the weigh-ins!

Good point,although perhaps she can be in charge of her weight but his size isn't within his control. Or should could put him on the scales too.

I thought the article was complete tosh. For once, I agree with Xenia's replies above.

Okay... if you ignore your SO's needs and wishes, they might get a bit pissed off, decide you're self-centred and inconsiderate, and leave...

NO S**T SHERLOCK!

Not entirely sure where the link to feminism is...