Advice wanted about effing TikTok

[Bexy10]

My youngest child badgered us to allow her on TikTok because the eldest did. Youngest is 12 guidance says 13 although the app says you can go on with parental guidance.

She's used it all summer to do inane dances and she loves it.

However, on day 1 of school we discovered she was has been called fat on it and someone has reposted one of her dance videos on it.

What to do?

She doesn't want to come off it, the poster has hidden their identity and how can I complain??

Personally I'd love to take her off it, but its been a life-line over the Summer. She didn't want to tell us because she was worried we'd take it away from her.

I've already had to contact the school about classroom bullying before lockdown and whilst I can't be sure it is school-linked, it seems very strange that this happening now.

Any tips/advice greatly received.

It’s your decision as her parent, you are the one that needs to help her make the right choices until she is older and wiser.
You made a calculated risk and sadly there have been consequences, complaining will not undo what has happened.
It won’t make you popular but I’d delete the app in your shoes.

I'd get her off it, especially with the latest news about it where a man live streamed his suicide and its all over tik tok.

Posted too soon- of course I’m sorry that your DD has been bullied, nothing makes that acceptable.

There's a thread in parenting

Get your children off tiktok worth a read

As a tik tok user I don't think a 12 year old should be anywhere near it. Unless you're happy for her to watch men blow their heads off, people talk about taking drugs, self harm, eating disorders and graphic sexual content.

As an adult I can scroll past to find the funny or interesting content - will she do the same?

Is this someone she knows who has done this or someone random? What settings has she got in place?

Also, it's my thread in parenting (didn't realise that's what pp meant initially as it has been moved) I come across as a rude bully, hysterical, unhinged and a raving loon apparently, but the general point I was trying to make is valid. Please read it. Also please don't judge me on for trying to warn parents - it wore me down yesterday.

Thank you all of you will read up