my kids (11yo) say batman on the palace and thought is was funny and then asked me why. i said if i left your dad i would hve more rights than him and i could possibly stop him seeing you. these parents are fighting becuase they want a change to a system where mothers are automatically considered the best parent.
to which both of them jumped off the setee where they were sitting with me right over to dad and said if ever you split up we would want to be with you!
i asked them if they thought this ( current system) was fair, they said no they love us both.
maybe the fathers in question are knobrots but they are highlighting an issue which needs to be addressed.
my BIL has 4 children from a previous relationship where his partner shagged his bestest mate in all the world, then fecked off and set up home. 2 years later he has not seen the eldest kids, he has been to court umpteen times, social services are involved in writing behavioural reports etc and all becusae this girl says that he beat her. this girl who was always drunk smoking pot and taking speed and battering him round the house cos he wouldnt iron the school uniform whist she went to the pub on a sunday to show off her tits.
he has just began to get access to his two youngest for 2 hours once every fortnight. the oldest were interviewed by social services asking about what they remembered when they were 3 and 4. indoctinated by their mother they said they hate daddy and he used to beat her up.
so he gets to see the youngest 2 but not the oldest two becuase 2 years have gone by and it might disrupt them - whereas the youngest are still young enough to develop a relationship with him.
ig i did ver split with my husband - money or no money i could never ever be the person who wrecked my childrens relationship with their dad. its too precious