Another prime example of whingey navel-gazing by a "journalist"

[emkana]

honestly woman what is your problem?

christ i dotn even have time to think

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isnt writing the article getting back to work though?

I was rather assuming that she wasn't a writer. It was a bit - purple.

I didn't even have time to eat! It was great. I lost tons of weight.

Now it's all gone to shit .

pruners

i thought it was badly-written, agreed about the fizzly ending and the touch of 'my clementines vomited themselves across the floor' but i do think it comes as a surprise to some women that they default to a housewifely stereotype.
not me, i should say, my dh is a bit sainted when it comes to supporting me and caring for dd. but then we both work from home so i can see that the dynamic would change completely if one of us was out of the house.

But this is the kind of thing we discussed in NCT classes and its definitely in a leaflet that I got in my Bounty pack, not to mention loads of baby books - "Make time for yourselves as a couple, get somebody to look after the baby while you go out etc. etc." I think waiting 6 months is a bit long, unless there really are circumstances that would make it impossible to leave the baby with somebody for a couple of hours.

Obviously people ignore the stuff that they hear in NCT classes and throw leaflets in the bin, and some people are sensible enough not to buy any books, and some odd people don't use MN, and as I said before, people get depressed. However, to say that nobody gives you any advice about how to cope with changes in your relationship after the baby is not really correct.

ohmygodareyoubuyingthathousenaily?! i saw that and wept a little at the fact that barring a lottery win i'll never, ever live like that.

isnt it effing gorgeous

i WANT the pink room for my dds

and i LOVE the kitchen

sounds to me like she's married to a bit of an arse, for a start

and she's a moaning cow

not so sure aobut the ginger room, mind.

at house.

If I had £2.5 mil I sure as fuck wouldn't spend it on a house in Edinburgh .

She should have gone back to work.

mozhe, when I saw your name there in active convos I just knew what your post would say.

Hope baby mozhe is well.

She should have gone back and done anything that would have stopped her from writing such an appallingly poor article.

You are a mind reader ! that is a useful skill....Baby Mozhe is getting on well...we tickle his feet now to wake him up....he is sleeping too much !!

Which kitchen, nailpolish? Apparently there are three...

What's the problem? She tells it like it is for alot of people.

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Ummm
( hesitate to say this for fear of large brickbats)
I think she just sounds supremely arrogant. It read to me as if she thought all the stuff you hear about women being a bit lost and low after the birth alongside the difficulties of feeling locked at home with a babe while husband slips out to 'normal' life was simply for lesser mortals. SHE would not be like that. I think her romantic prose reflects the fact that she did see herself as some yummymummy tripping into town and lunching with friends whilst beautiful dior clad offspring sleeps on queue and never craps. She complains about lack of nurtureing but I think she is just angry.
My friends and i talk about this stuff the time - how to be a mum, especially a mum at home without losing any sight of yourself.Perhaps she doesn't choose to talk to others - she seems to feel ashamed at finding it hard. Is it the first thing she felt she failed at and how huniliating would that be if she had convinced herself it was so easy.
I was good at my job but I am a crap SAHM ( great mum , crap at the housework bit) you should either get on with it or do something else. If i have time this afternoon I will sink listlessly on to the faded sofa still warm from the babys nap and pick the crumbs of biscuits up, counting as if they represent the days gone by , the fractured remnents of the girl i used to be.....

I thought the piece was honest and interesting. Yes she writes as if she's the first woman it happened to but that's the weird thing about babies. They're born every day and all their mothers go through this complex adjustment and rearrangement of their identity. And it's very common but when you're in it, it feels like it's only ever happened to you. You're like one of a crowd but very isolated at the same time.

And perhaps (as Mozhe suggests) mothers who go back to work feel it less which is also interesting.