i assume this is in response to my saying about poor parenting, Humphrey.
i agree 100% that there needs to be more support for sn - god knows i could tell you a million tales of how we have had to fight for the smallest crumb, but i stand by my belief that parenting is the key.
my kids are autistic. lifes been - in nappies until about 6rs, mute till about 4yrs - still talk at about 2yr old level, screaming violent tantrums like you wouldnt believe, smashing everything, smearing poo everywhere, biting, hitting, scratching. so on and so forth. i say this to illustrate that i mean severe problems for us to deal with and i'm not talking out of my hat!! Deal with it we must and deal with it we do. it is hard and it seems like you'll never have a breakthrough! but it happens. my kids have had some real acheivements, ds1 is doing especially well - and he was the more violent and challenging of the two.
i know that it can be hard, i dont mean parents who are trying. i mean parents who are not.
i see them, my dad who is a teacher sees them, parents who go in screaming at the teacher, who wont help, support, participate. people who dont parent in a meaningful way.
there are far more of those around whose kids are running into trouble at school than parents of kids with sn who are battling to help them progress and to help with the challenging behaviour.
i cant know who is who, which is why i dont go round pointing and saying that one needs to change the way they deal with their kids and that one needs some extra help for the sn. i just say that the 2 different issues exist. and there are far more of type 1 than type 2.
its like - i am very fat, there are very many very fat people around. some fat people have metabolic problems or things like prada-willie (sp), some have serious emotional problems but most are fat because they eat too much. i cant tell by looking who has a medical problem, who has an emotional problem and who eats too much and moves too little. i can tell you that there are more of type c than type a and b put together.
people need to parent their children not abdicate (sp??) their responsibility and say its the schools fault the school needs to discipline/control my child, make them into a Good Person. No. Thats the parental role. school is there to support you not raise your kids. while i agree that schools could do with improving in so many ways, i just feel that in these stories no importance at all is placed on the home environment and it is all The Schools Fault.