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what do w think about he Ray parlour (?) divorce?

53 replies

codswallop · 12/07/2004 16:02

is she greedy or fighting for our rights?
I cant decide

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Fio2 · 12/07/2004 16:03

whho is ray parlour?

spacemonkey · 12/07/2004 16:04

here

spacemonkey · 12/07/2004 16:05

£12500 pa per child in child support ... sigh

CountessDracula · 12/07/2004 16:05

FIO you are terrible.

How can you ask that? He is charlie dimmocks twin brother

gothicmama · 12/07/2004 16:05

if she helped him have a career by making decisiosn which enabled it then why not if she played no active role in his career than no she is just greedy - but fair play to her for trying

codswallop · 12/07/2004 16:05

But willl his income radically decrease int he future tho? shouldnt sjhe get what she can now?

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Fio2 · 12/07/2004 16:05

how often is that?! a day, week, month, year.....................

codswallop · 12/07/2004 16:06

she worked in specsavers before otr something like that

bet she has long tippex nails!

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CountessDracula · 12/07/2004 16:07

Her point is that without her he would have drunk himself silly and not be earning anything by now.

His point is that HE is the one who does it

I'm with him. You don't change unless you want to, just because someone suggests it doesn't mean they are entitled to the cash, otherwise careers advisors would all be wadded.

spacemonkey · 12/07/2004 16:07

in that story it says his income will plummet as he hits his mid 30s

Fio2 · 12/07/2004 16:08

oh I have found out who is now! LOL CD at him being charlie's twin

what if he has anymore kids with someone else? would the maintenance be reduced?

codswallop · 12/07/2004 16:08

or her?

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Fio2 · 12/07/2004 16:09

i think its greedy myself....

Fio2 · 12/07/2004 16:10

i will get hit with a brick now..............

spacemonkey · 12/07/2004 16:11

no, I think it's greedy too

Twinkie · 12/07/2004 18:29

I'm with her!

DelGirl · 12/07/2004 18:34

I think she's being greedy. A 3rd of what he earns on top of him paying for upkeep on 2 houses and child maintenance! Kind of sets a precedent now though

Fio2 · 12/07/2004 18:37

I dont think she will get it and tbh I think this sort of behaviour will backfire in the end and dads will start getting custordy. She seems only interested in money not her child and if he is a better figure then maybe things will start changing. I am not saying he shouldnt pay but come on please, that is not normal. We support two adults, 2 children, 2 dogs, a high mortgage for us on alot lot less than that

MeanBean · 13/07/2004 17:00

I think if his earnings go up, what percentage he gives to his kids should reflect that. And likewise if they go down. Just as would happen if he were living with them. I don't see why it's unreasonable to ask the partner who is not living with the kids to contribute a large percentage of their income towards the upkeep of those kids; the resident parent does.

MeanBean · 13/07/2004 17:01

Although these sorts of cases are not good benchmarks because they're so atypical. And agree that she probably does have tipp-ex nails!

Freckle · 13/07/2004 17:21

I don't think she is being greedy.

A lot of women sacrifice their career to be a sahm and support their dhs as they climb the career ladder. Then, when they get ditched for a younger model, they're expected to look after the children and support themselves, with a token amount of maintenance for the children.

I could be a case in point. Before I married dh, I had a very well-paid, high-flying job with good career prospects. We made a joint decision that I would stay at home with the children and give up my career, possibly returning to it when the children didn't need me so much. Now, God forbid, should dh and I divorce, he still has his very well paid job, but I would be hard-pressed to find anything which paid as much as I was earning when I got married, let alone anything equal to what I would have been earning had I not given up work. Is it fair that he go off with his salary and I'm left to support myself and 3 children on the amount of money the CSA would award?? Yes, I could go and get a "job". But, what would that be? Certainly nothing like the job I had before and, with young children still at primary school, you still have to consider childcare - before and after school and holidays (which would probably wipe out anything I could earn). And this doesn't even consider the effect on the children of their always-there mum suddenly no longer being there for them when they are vulnerable anyway from the divorce.

The divorce settlement should reflect the sah spouse's (after all it could be the dad) lost earning potential by replacing it with some of the earning spouse's salary. This has been recognised with regard to pensions. Why not salaries? Obviously if the sah spouse lands a well-paid job, etc., the situation could be reviewed (which I believe it will be in the Parlour case in 4 years' time anyway).

Fio2 · 13/07/2004 17:22

so she is going to get 400k + a year maintenance and 12.5k for each of her 3 children a year

it does seem greedy to people like me who know families that live off 12.5k a year or a little more ykwim

Twinkie · 13/07/2004 17:23

I donl;t think her nails have anything to do with this and think looking at pictures of her she is not your typical footballers wife - the woman that he left her for though seems to be!!

Fio2 · 13/07/2004 17:24

I am sure i read somewhwre that the CSA cap the limit to 300quid a month per child even for very high earners

Fio2 · 13/07/2004 17:24

but then again i think I read that in my grans daily Mirror!