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Top ten parental mistakes
1 Lack of communication. Parents must talk and come to a solution about their child?s difficult behaviour together.
2 Lack of assertiveness. Some children don?t seem to know that their parents are in charge. This makes them insecure and angry. Prove your authority by being calmly in control. If you promise or threaten something, be consistent and deliver it.
3 No time off. It?s important for parents to have time away from their children to build on the parental relationship that supports the entire family.
4 Too many choices. Toddlers often don?t know if they would prefer the blackcurrant juice to the orange. Often it is better to tell them what they are having or doing rather than asking them what they want.
5 Poor routine. Children prefer to know exactly what happens at what time. This increases their sense of security and the sense that someone is in charge.
6 No warnings. Give children ample warning about everything. Don?t suddenly tell them that they are getting out of the bath. Say: ?We?ll need to get out in five minutes.? The same applies to discipline. Warn a child that a certain action will result in a certain punishment.
7 Not enough praise. Tell off your children if necessary, but don?t forget to give them copious praise when it is due.
8 Making comparisons. Comparing your child with other children is not helpful. All children develop at their own pace.
9 Being too ?hands on?. It isn?t always necessary to be completely involved with children?s activities. Step back sometimes to let them them learn and develop their imaginations.
10 Lack of empathy. Sometimes parents seem incapable of seeing things through a child?s eye. Listen to your children and try to understand what is happening in their world.