uglyswan, I think, we are absolutely on the Same wavelength (Do you really say that? leo.org saß so...).
my first Posting about this on the german Forum was, how outraged and saddened and angry i am about such a massive attack on womens rights and womens freiem.
and i emphazised, that that would be the case and is the case no matter which Religion or ethnicity the attackiert would have, I wrote, that every attac on a Girls or women should be investigated and punished, whenever possible.
that was there das ago and by now i am Busy defending myself, because some People over there seem to push my Messe NT in the feminists corners, where i would Put it, but in the right Wing, where i definitely not belong.
and so this discussion, as you say, shifts from the original cause (no one should be allowed to assault women) to "why it is our on doing, because we didn't Do enough to make People Embrace our rules and laws.