Jennifer8888 .... a mortgage lender in the current environment signing off buying household appliances and then extending a mortgage loan, if correct, something is a bit iffy here.
Are we talking about them extending a MORTGAGE here, or did they take the mortgaged home as collateral for a separate 'appliance of science' loan by/to your partner?
Aside from that, the fact that you are still on the mortgage 4-years later would suggest to me that you think that you are benefiting from 'the proceeds of (housing price) growth', yes or no?
But even then, buying appliances hardly improves the value of the home, so I can't see your upside.
Are you sure you read through the documents purpose/terms of the loan?
Your partner may be having problems paying the lender on the mortgage for the mortgage or white goods, either way, it doesn't look good for his ability to service his debts, unfortunately in joint names with you.
Pretend Mumsnet is a less harsh judgemental Judge Rinder and tell us the full story.