Baby girl taken from mother to live with dad and his boyfriend

[Darcey2105]

I'm horrified!! Have you seen this story this morning?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-32603514

A baby girl was taken from her mother and is now in sole custody of the dad and his boyfriend. The reason being that he said the baby was conceived to be their surrogate child. but she says he agreed to be her sperm donor so she could have the baby.

What is going on? Surely even if the mother had changed her mind about surrogacy she could still be allowed to keep her own baby. I am totally appalled. The men had a top female lawyer fighting their case. And it looks like it was a woman judge who ruled it was in the baby's best interest to live with the dad and his boyfriend - even though the baby was still breastfeding!!

how can there be so little support of mothers? Please tell me I hallucinated the whole awful story.

Yes, Juggling - as I also said, don't imprint your feelings on others. I don't know why anyone should take your side just because you feel you couldn't give up a baby after surrogacy? You wouldn't even be in that situation - you wouldn't have been selected as one.

Equally, some people want to have their own flesh and blood. Do you want to deny them that? That would be a bit mean, given you never had trouble having your own at all.

Blimey SnowBells calm down!
We all use our experience to inform our views
I'm only expressing my views which are more balanced than you suggest
And I'm not telling anyone else what their view should be or how they should behave in relation to these difficult issues

Darcey, the problem with attributing all this woman's actions to the stress of litigation is that it doesn't explain her initial actions of not telling the father the baby had been born, getting the birth registered without naming him on the birth certificate, and using names she alone chose. That was all before any litigation started, and in fact precipitated it.

And I must say, if I were feeling stressed out about being involved in litigation, my first thought would not have been to increase that stress immeasurably by directly disobeying a court order.