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bath snatch conviction

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SHhhhhh · 05/11/2006 18:51

Hi,
I am the mother of the 6 year old girl that was snatched from her bath. I have read some of your messages and was touched. The problem i have though... when this first happened i did a search for any articles that were related to this incident as i was being hounded by press etc and wanted to find out what people thought of it all,when i started to read through i was absolutely devastated.... most people assumed i was either a druggy an alcoholic etc... and was unable to grasp that i am just a normal everyday caring loving mother... i assumed i would get support from other mothers... the ironic thing is the police believed me and my partner from the offset it was just society that was judging i only hope none of u will ever have 2 face what i had to .. and then to encounter messages of the sort i did... this goes out 2 every 1 of those people that pre-judged me and i would like to thank the people that didnt

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themildmanneredjanitor · 05/11/2006 18:52

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UCM · 05/11/2006 19:06

Eh??

FireFaerie · 05/11/2006 19:11

well, if you are sincerely the mother of that poor child my heart goes out to you. i never assume anything, or do my best not to. It was a horrible thing to have happened.

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SHhhhhh · 05/11/2006 19:17

yes firefaerie i am the little girls mum, thank you for your kind words its nice to know i do have support afterall...

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SherlockLGJ · 05/11/2006 19:19

Oh God, I really hope you are who you say you are.

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SHhhhhh · 05/11/2006 19:26

I am who i say i am obviously u will be very sceptical.... it would do no-one no justice to come on here and impersonate me... im merely trying to express how peoples pre-judgements cut deeply...

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WelshBoris · 05/11/2006 19:29

I think your daughters mental anguish is enough to cut deeply

Concentrate on her, not someone elses opinion on a public forum

SherlockLGJ · 05/11/2006 19:29

In that case you are very welcome.

But you need to know that this board has been abused by people before.

Not saying you are one of those people.

But members have spent a long time supporting people only to find out that they were being had.

It has made us more guarded.

But you are very welcome.

Freckle · 05/11/2006 19:35

I am so sorry you have had to go through this. To experience the horror of having your child snatched and abused and then to have to read unsupportive and judgemental opinions must make it much worse.

I hope you and your daughter are receiving the support you need to move on from this awful time in a positive way.

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SHhhhhh · 05/11/2006 19:39

thanks sherlock,
I agree welshboris, she is doing just fine at mo which is why i can now find the time to come on here and vent off lol
This was a horrendous thing for us all to cope with but i can honestly say we have bounced back from it... my next task will be xmas when i can make sure she has the best 1 ever

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FioFio · 05/11/2006 19:40

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SHhhhhh · 05/11/2006 19:45

ta fiofio
We are getting all the help we have asked for.. I thought i wouldn't have the strength 2 get through it but like any other mum out there it comes naturally...
U just carry on and do your best ... It was extremely hard at the beginning but now its just a way of life....

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popsycal · 05/11/2006 19:47

tiy kuve not far from me then
hope you are all doing ok

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SHhhhhh · 05/11/2006 19:51

a smile from each of us we are doing fine ...
hope to find a new house before xmas though

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AitchTwoOh · 05/11/2006 20:04

hope you are doing okay, now, your poor family must be feeling shattered now...
remember it's just a story in a newspaper or on a screen for everyone who isn't you, so a lot of people project their own thoughts and prejudices onto news stories. it doesn't really relate to your experience, but to theirs. i hope you all get your peace of mind back soon.

FireFaerie · 05/11/2006 20:04

glad to see you are doing fine now also, my luck to you on finding a house. May love and peace be with you all

Aero · 05/11/2006 20:21

It's hard not to be skeptical on here sometimes, but assuming you are that mum, (benefit of the doubt and all that) then my heart goes out to you. My dd is the same age and I know I would have been sick with worry if any such thing ha;;ened to her. It's good to see you're getting back on track now and getting the necessary support. Are you thinking of staying with us here on mn? It's a great place to offload, learn, share, laugh, cry, you name it, it happens here. Welcome.

SherlockLGJ · 05/11/2006 20:23

Agree with Aero,to quote Welsh Boris, it is the only place in the world where you can pee your pants laughing and sob buckets for someone all in the same . Really hope you choose to stay.

SherlockLGJ · 05/11/2006 20:24

all in the same day. even

edam · 05/11/2006 20:31

I think people who sounded suspicious when the crime was first reported were just reacting to the fact that it was so extraordinary. And, sadly, often when children are harmed, it is someone known to the family who is responsible. So, to anyone who doesn't know the place where you live and that people do leave their back doors unlocked (from what I've read) it may have sounded bizarre and much more likely that it was someone who had access to your home ie a family friend or even relative.

As it happened, I didn't post anything doubting your story, because there wasn't any reason to - the police had issued a statement and there was no cause to question it without further information. Like that ill-informed speculation about that poor family in Greece, all started because someone jumped to the conclusion that it was a suicide pact.

I wish you all the strength you need as a family to recover from this terrible, appalling crime.

RTKangaMummy · 05/11/2006 20:39

SHhhhhh I am confused about your name as there was another MNetter with nearly the same name

So are you her and have put a different number of "H" or "h"

or someone else?

FireFaerie · 05/11/2006 20:48

I am glad you have the support of other MNers. Welcome. Please forgive the sceptic within us. im sure you will feel just as sceptic at some point during your stay at Mumsnet May your stay be fruitful and Pleasant, no matter who you are, or where you come from, everyone deserves a helping hand! you dont seem like any of the assumed to me

7up · 05/11/2006 20:49

oh yea, it is the same name isnt it,blimey has it been a mner all along on here then. i dont remember a thread about the story but not very nice if its you and youve lurked and read nasty comments

alexa1 · 05/11/2006 20:54

sHhhhhh - are u the original shhh? anyway, I Just wanted to say welcome to mumsnet if u aren't the original or same shhh, and hope your little girl is getting over her awful ordeal and i am sure she will have the best christmas ever this year.

Aero · 05/11/2006 20:59

Yes, we already have a 'shhhh' who posts here. A little confusing, as I assume you're a different person.