I agree that more help is required in how to do it. the midwife banged on and on about it in ante natal. i said that i had been told that it hurt initially when they latched on etc, but that if you were doing it properly after that it shouldn't hurt. She just wanted to shut me up as she thought i was putting people off, whereas I was just trying to find out the truth as advised by friends who had done it!
The MW also banged on about how they would come round every day, every feed if necessary once we were home.
In hospital they said that they wouldn't let me go home until I had mastered BF. i said that i would top up with FF if necessary, so they let us go. I struggled with BF, i have big boobs and think that they were suffocating the baby, she hated lying down and feeding, wanted to do it sat up, i spent nights crying and trying to feed her.
I rang the MW and was told that they were too busy to come and help me. One day the MW didn't come at all and when I said about the BF she said,
"well you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink" and laughed
That night, when once again both me and DD were crying and not feeding, I got up and made a bottle and that was that, i never went back to BF. I did try expressing, but it all just ran down my front and not into the funnel.
so.... yes, much more support is needed. If the MW's can't do it, they should be able to access peer supporters who are willing and able to come round every day if necessary.
But I am not going to beat myself up about whether or not it will affect my child's HQ. Every child is different. Every child cannot be a genius. not every BF child will be a genius.
These studies need to stop and the money needs to go to supporting mums to BF.
and mums need to stop beating themselves up if they cant BF. The main thing that is important is that the baby is fed and that both mum and baby are happy!