Ayesha Chowdhury

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Poor wee girl. RIP.
May she be in a better place.
What monsters her mother and her mother's friend were.
They got manslaughter- beggars belief.
Where was her father? Her relations ? Her teachers ? The other neighbours ?
Had she other wee friends ? If she had did their Mum's notice anything?
She was let down by them all.
When you read cases like this you can understand why Stephen Fry holds the view on God that he does.

In fairness to Mrs Climbie, private fostering arrangements with extended family members are normal in West Africa, very normal, esp where it is thought the child will benefit from eg a better education. Very very sad

'Very normal'….'very sad'

Yes, isn't it just. It's an absolute mystery to me why we allow these cynical 'private fostering arrangements' to happen AT ALL.

The sentences are a joke.

It is so sad for this poor little girl. DSD is her age and if anyone tries to tell me she was evil I'd have to put them down hard.

I can't help imagining how bewildered the poor girl must have been after 8 years of having a normal mother (I assume because nothing has suggested otherwise) to suddenly be turned on like this.

Rest in peace little one

It's a desperately sad case.

its tragic but where was the father in all of this .and blaming mental health issues is unfair .they seem to blame that on everything .some folk are just plain evil .

The stuff about her writing about trying to be good because she thought she was causing the abuse because of her behaviour is just unbearable.

I think a lot more scrutiny needs to be applied to people who jump out of a relationship involving children straight into another live-in relationship. It should NOT happen that quickly. If it does, it should be treated as a red flag

I was thinking about this awful case this morning and feeling anger that the mother didn't protect her child, but also wondering, if the mother had prevented the father from seeing the child as it says in the article, how long would she be able to do that? How long before he'd be able to lodge legal proceedings to force access? If the mum started to prevent access when the physical abuse started at the beginning of the summer holidays, how long would it have taken for him to gain access again? Just wondering how it works

When my partner was refused access to DSD it took 2 years in total before he finally saw her again.

That included:
Contacting mediation and waiting for them to write to ex (took them 2 months as there was a waiting list), waiting for ex to respond(she was given 21 days), waiting for second invite (3 weeks), waiting for response (21 days), contacting solicitor and waiting for return call (took about 3 weeks), waiting for sol to apply for legal aid (can't remember how long this took them), application for legal aid took 12 weeks, waiting for sol to submit papers for court (3 more months and eventually told sol had quit firm and her cases were being redistributed), waiting for new sol to be assigned (1 week with twice-daily phone calls), waiting for new sol to submit court papers (3 weeks), waiting for court date (2 months), court allegedly failed to notify ex until day before court date so had to be adjourned for another 4 weeks, several hearings about agreeing contact which took almost 7 months due to various assessments and courses they were both required to undergo, waiting for ex to approve a supported contact setting (it took us finding 9 different possible places before she eventually had no choice but to agree to one in front of the judge), waiting for ex to agree first date of contact with contact centre (took 4 different suggestions of a start date), waiting for that date to arrive.

It's a very long process, especially if the mother is refusing all contact and prolonging the process as much as possible.