Women should freeze our eggs at 30 to use at 40

[TheDullWitch]

Fertility expert says it's the way to stop disappointment conceiving in 40s here

I'd also like to know how many of the women who do only start attempting to conceive in their late 30s and over, and then find they have fertility difficulties, have those difficulties as a direct result of their age. Obviously, whatever the cause, you have less time to attempt to find a solution - but the fact is that fertility varies enormously between different women.

I have to say that one reason for my suicidal depression at 35 was that with yet another man ditching me, I thought that really was my chance of children gone forever. And when I took up with DP at 36 one reason I was hopeless with contraception was a feeling of "oh, I'm too old to get pregnant anyway".

(I was wrong, as it happens . And wrong again when I thought I was too old to get pregnant at 39, too.)

Sheesh, I meant to say 'this DOESN'T mean' and 'these' subtleties'.
It is very likely that if you can't get pregnant at, say, 37, you may well not have been able to get pregnant at 27.

The thought of having a baby at 40 isn't a nice one for me! Ideally I won't have a baby after the age of 35.

Which is great - even a little smug - if you have someone who wants to have babies with you at 34.

It's just my opinion. I don't want them after the age of 35. I think that's fair enough. My LO will be a grown up herself by the time I'm 35.

Even if you have been pregnant before it doesn't mean that you will be definitely be able to get pregnant again.

Agree with most posts.

Although had managed to find DH in my early 20s, didn't remotely want children until my early 30s, as I was too busy enjoying uni, career, going out, trying to be more financially secure, doing up house to make it fit for potential children etc.

We are lucky that we live in an enlightened western society that enables us to make these choices. Most women in the world are not so fortunate.

Obviously it is biologically better to have children at your physical peak in your 20s but our society generally encourages us to leave it later as it wants us to be economically active for as long as possible and taking time out to have children is not an economically attractive prospect (although fair play to Mr Brown with his tax credits and improved maternity allowances).

If the Government is concerned about fertility or reproductive rates, imo, the obvious thing is to make it more economically attractive i.e. improved employment rights (many friends of mine are on short-term contracts in professional jobs and hence do not even qualify for statutory maternity benefits), much more generous maternity allowances (both pay and time allowed off), child benefit and tax credits plus improved support for childcare costs.

Like most people here I am sick of hearing about irresponsible women delaying starting their families for all sorts of self indulgent reasons like: finding a suitable partner, becoming financially stable, getting a home together, establishing a career. All those frivelous self indulgent activities that mean once we stop the tumble weed blowing through our ovaries and get on with procreating we do have a way of supporting and nurturing our children.

To be told that we should freeze our eggs and stop placing a strain on the nhs due to our advanced age when we bet pregnant negates all the contributions that these women do make. What about the taxes we pay? The work we do? The societites we contribuite too?

There are times when I feel sod it if my aged body needs extra care to get me through pregnancy. I've paid enough taxes and made my contribution to society. What about the contributions we make as opposed to the strains we place on the system. Rant over. I'm off to spend the child allowance on chardonnay.