Peaches geldof dead

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Just been on Bbc news

I agree that interest is inevitable (not the same thing as prurient speculation).

If there is any possibility of awareness-raising about whatever the cause of death was, then that will be a worthwhile way in which the inevitable interest can be harnessed.

Only last week I was explaining to DD the impact that Karen Carpenter's death had on awareness of anorexia.

Conversely, it always seemed to me a horrible waste that no real seatbelt safety message emerged from the Princess Diana hysteria.

How about we just have some respect for those babies and the family.

Truly, that is all that's needed.

If you can't even do that, then something is wrong with you.

It never happens though does it McP?

My fathers death at the age of 34 has shaped me in ways I am still finding out about.

^ This.

I lost my father at 13 and don't feel as though I've ever stopped losing him. Holidays, exam results, graduation, boyfriend home for the first time, first house, wedding, birth of my own boys - he never saw any of it. At 36 I still dream about him and the hole he left gapes a little wider at times when I want him there the most.

Beautifully put by lolaisafuckertoo.

I lost my mother as a child and feel that every day of my life. I have very limited memories of her. I lost her all over again it seemed when I became a mother myself.

So often people trot out the "kids are so adaptable" line, and yes on the surface they are. But equally losing my mother has completely shaped my life and the person I have become.

Interestingly someone close to me said when her mother died that people around me didn't realise the impact it had on my at the time of my mothers death and apologised to me, as she only realised when her mother died (aged over 70) how hard it must have been. So it was nice that she acknowledged it not always easier.

I now not far off the age my mother was when she died and I expect I will find that very hard to deal with as well.

My heart goes out to all of you who have lost parents, especially while very young. ((()))

My mother died when I was 25, my father when I was 28.

I am now 33. Since they have have died, so much has happened. I have married, I have two children. I am still waiting for the grief to pass.

Every day, every single day without fail, I long for them to be here, to know my husband and see my children, to see me.

No one will ever love you as a parent will. My husband loves me deeply, but it is not unconditional. Far from it. Whereas the love of my parents was unconditional. I know, because I feel it for my own children. And without that unconditional love, I feel vulnerable.

so sorry for you Enjoyingmycoffee - it's so very hard to have to go through life's events without our parents. You hit the nail on the head for me with the unconditional love thing. My biggest fear is leaving my ds knowing that noone, no matter how much they care for him, loves him unconditionally in the way that dh and I do.

My father died when I was a baby. I have spent my whole life mourning the relationship that I haven't had. I've been missing a huge part of myself. When I had my daughter, it only reinforced that. I lose him over and over, with every milestone that he misses.

I'm so sad for Peaches and her family. She had truly blossomed into a wonderful mother and she adored those babies. Makes me cry.

"the hole he left gapes a little wider at times when I want him there the most."

MissBetsey - I am sorry for your loss. x
My father died when I was 3m and I find that when I want him there the most the hole widens so much I feel like I am falling through the planet.
Sometimes I am driving by myself (rarely) and I talk to 'him' in the car (he died in a car crash) and I just find myself sobbing and sobbing and have to pull over.

This thread has become a monument to our own lost parents as well as a sadness for the loss of another (famous) parent who died far too young, and I think that is a nice thing for the thread to be, as well as a remembrance of Peaches.

Thanks firstchoice these stories do trigger things, don't they. Hugs to you. (( ))

Thanks, MissBetsy.
Yes, they do.
Hugs to all of us who have lost parents, at whatever stage.
It is terribly sad Peaches sons will grow up without her.

I have only just heard the news (been camping with no internet) and I'm utterly shocked. What a terrible thing to happen and such a loss to her family. Although I'm not given to be upset over people I don't know personally, I've found myself very upset over this like a lot of others I imagine.

I've just read that her youngest son Phaedra was found with her body. I'm fucking heartbroken, he must have been so confused and scared. I'm glad she didn't die alone but that poor baby.

Really still so upset by this. Which is an understatement. Can't help looking at my 12 month old and being overcome.

Oh no. I hadn't read that, that is tragic.

I was very caught out by this news. Shouldn't really compare it with other deaths, but a lot of them this year have been very unexpected. But this one really got to me, partly cos I've been nursing my mother a lot lately and in that situation death isn't so abstract, you don't hang about on Popbitch so much.

That Peaches Geldof wasn't a great talent somehow made it worse; when some moody rock star dies it can be seen as shocking but mentally rather than emotionally shocking. It can be put down to their artistic temperament, that we live in exciting times, it is the final tragic piece of the jigsaw. Anyway, we do feel distanced from the 'stars'.

I couldn't feel like that here. It felt simply awful, that is all. Just wholly sad and heartbreaking, with nothing else to distract. Of course, really that is how those other rock star deaths should have been seen too.

Being of an older generation than her makes it rougher too somehow, when you are the same age you tend to think of it as living in 'interesting times' or something.

Yeah, sorry that didn't read as well as it did in my head.

I've been avoiding the news recently because I get so pissed off at the speculation and assumptions about suicide and drugs but I have a question for anyone who knows about these things. If no cause of death is known what happens? Do they do more investigations or just leave it as unexplained? The not knowing must make this all the more awful for her poor family

I'm no expert but, plenty of deaths are left unexplained. I've avoided the news but I thought the back lash was interesting in the broad sheets saying how the internet has made one family's tragedy everyone else's business. I hope they get to bury her quietly.

I think a coroner can record an open or narrative verdict if it's inconclusive.

They are doing toxicology which will take awhile. But presumably it could be SADS if nothing else is found?

Ah I see, thanks for explaining. I wasn't sure if they could put unexplained on the death certificate or if they would just go with the most likely cause of death even if it hadn't been proven. It would be so much better for the family if they had proof that it wasn't drugs or suicide just to end the horrible speculation and get some closure for themselves.