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Mothers in their thirties go off sex after having children

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Overrun · 15/08/2006 13:21

Now are you thinking "tell us something we don't know" or are you thinking
"another dig at 'older' mothers?"
I got it from the times 2 section yesterday.

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oliveoil · 15/08/2006 13:22

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acnebride · 15/08/2006 13:26

How about 'older dads find that they're too tired to give their partners really good sex any more'

FioFio · 15/08/2006 13:27

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foxinsocks · 15/08/2006 13:28

link pls for the lazy amongst us

iota · 15/08/2006 13:28

shouldn't it just be "Mothers go off sex after having children "

Iklboo · 15/08/2006 13:28

Should be retitled..."Mothers in their 30s too tired after working all day, coming home and finding that DH, who has been home all day without DS, has done FECK ALL except play on Playstation and so mum has to put washing in, do dishes, tidy kitchen, iron laundry, do tea, prepare DS bottles......."

oliveoil · 15/08/2006 13:29

It wasn't a dig at older mothers, it was about parents.

The headline was 'no sex please we're parents' or something like that.

Tips on how to get your groove back as it were, and how everyone is tired initially and that sex is just another job on the to-do list.

oliveoil · 15/08/2006 13:35

here

Thomcat · 15/08/2006 13:37

I'm thinking...absolute bollocks.

I'm having lots of it and enjoying it as much, if not more than ever thank you very much.

Iklboo · 15/08/2006 13:39

at Thomcat!!
But..where there's a willy there's a way. DH just phoned to say his late evening pupil has cancelled so he'll be home for 6 tonight. YAY - early night then

marthamoo · 15/08/2006 13:44

It's quality, not quantity, you know (at least that's what I try and fob dh off with )

Read an interesting thing the other day (can't remember where, that's another thing that goes after having babies - your brian). For years I've always held it as gospel that men reach their sexual peak at around 19, women in their late 30s/early 40s. Apparently it's not true. The research came from Kinsey's sex studies in the 60s, when it simply wasn't acceptable for young women to admit to having a high sex drive - only the older women in his survey had the confidence/bravery to admit that they were at it like rabbits as well.

So that huge surge in libido I've been waiting for all these years...it's a bloody myth

foxinsocks · 15/08/2006 13:46

?New mums don?t want to make love because they carry the burden of household duties, as well as all the other roles they play. If they divvy out the domestic stuff, they?ll be more amenable.?

So basically if men clean the floors, we'll sleep with them!!

That is the most fantastic article I've ever read. How hysterical that they have taken quotes from Barry Fowler ("who?s evangelical about women exercising their pubococcygeus muscles, preferably with the PelvicToner he manufactures") !!

ssd · 15/08/2006 13:48

this article seems geared to "after you baby is born" and how to start having sex again.

how about when your kids are at school and you still can't be arsed?

Thomcat · 15/08/2006 13:48

Have recently purchased a new bed and it's done even more amazing wonders for the sex life, it';s like - holiday hotel room type sex, hpneymoon stylee!

Anyway - tmi - I'm off before I say more

ssd · 15/08/2006 13:49

or the old chestnut about when your kids have nightmares/ wake up every bloody night etc. etc.

kind of puts you off finding your 3 yr old in bed every night..........................

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Overrun · 15/08/2006 14:06

sorry olive oil didn't really realise you had already done this. I thought in the article it self it did make a comment about how women are now having children in their thirties and this the affects their sex drive, but have misread it.
As some one else said, I think that you need a bit more romancing, you know massage,nice meal etc to get you in the mood after looking after whinegy children.
Its quite a shift from mum to vamp sometimes, when you are covered in crap sometimes literally and then expected to get jiggy with it.
I think we notice Men's tendency to just want to get down to it more, when we are tired and looking after small kids all day.

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Overrun · 15/08/2006 14:08

thomcat, does that explain your name then

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Thomcat · 15/08/2006 14:11

PMSL - ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, no it doesn't but i like it, i like it.

FioFio · 15/08/2006 14:13

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Thomcat · 15/08/2006 14:15

Always pissed so yeah I guess so!!!!

No, but you know when you.... oh just treat yourself to a really f off new bed, you'll see what I mean!

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sorkycake · 15/08/2006 14:18

That's a load of rubbish for me, I'm having more now at my request than I did in my 20's. Course that probably also explains why I'm up the duff again.

bubblepop · 15/08/2006 15:07

tend to agree with thomcat..someone said to me recently ."god, have you not got a telly in your house then !" i had just had my fourth child..

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Overrun · 15/08/2006 15:10

I think having a telly really does affect our sex life for the worse. I end up getting hooked on programmes like Lost and Big Love etc and they are on so late, it is all I can do to stay up and watch them. Sex comes a poor second to my telly addictions
There is always wednesday to Sunday though

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joelallie · 21/08/2006 17:15

Tut! God..... older mothers are so f*ing lazy aren't we? Fancy not wanting to shag like bunnies all the time.....shocking!

I'd just like to say...."yeah...and????"

Come and live my life for a few weeks and see whether you're up for it all the time.....or even once a week.

Having said that we've just had a week away and did the deed 3 times !!! Yes ....3 times. Record in this household

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