I have utmost respect for what this army of people did for my dad. However, I do wonder whether such care would have been possible in hospital. (At home, my mum was participating in the care, which she wouldn't have been doing in hospital, therefore carrying some of the burden).
Interesting point ipad.
There are a number of reasons why it can go wrong in a hospital. Every member of staff on my ward has had end of life training, even the HCA's (we are a medical care of the elderly ward). Palliative care are involved, consultants and junior doctors, etc.
I can give some examples.
We have 3 areas on our ward; male, female and acute. We have 6 side rooms for the more acutely unwell patients or infectious patients. Whenever possible, we would move an acutely ill patient to one of these rooms to be able to provide round the clock care. The staff to patient ratio within that area is greater, although it is still only one staff nurse/one HCA to 6 patients. In the other areas there is one staff nurse/one HCA to 12 patients.
As you can imagine, this being a care of the elderly ward, we have to wash, dress, toilet, feed and comfort 30 patients between 6 of us. Thats without administering any medication (some drugs, like morphine, will require 2 staff nurses to administer) write up notes, attend various meetings (can be one or two a day) chase up referrals, xrays etc.. The list is endless.
We have the highest number of dementia patients on our ward as they are defined as care of the elderly, although none of us are trained in mental health. We have a dementia study day once every 2 years. Most of our patients are very high risk of falls, confused, wander, shout and/or physically aggressive.
These 6 side rooms are usually taken up by our dementia patients that are a danger to themselves or other patients (we've had patients hitting other patients for example) or by a patient who has an infection.
Sadly, we can't always move the unwell patient to a side room, because of safety reasons or infection control reasons. The unwell patient has to remain on an open ward, with a staff nurse/HCA already pushed for time. With all the best intentions in the world, we cannot provide the kind of care that is needed.
Even in the acute area, if we have the rooms occupied by aggressive, wandering patients, we cannot provide the care the ill patient needs.nity
We do encourage relatives to come as much as possible, we have a dedicated family room so relatives can stay overnight to get some space/sleep. However, if the patient has to remain on an open ward, we are not allowed to let them stay unless that patient is likely to pass within 24 hours. This is for the dignity and privacy of the other patients.
As for the other issues pointed out by other posters i.e stopping fluids, there are medical reason why fluids are stopped. This should always be explained to relatives though. Mouth care is a massive part of end of life care.
Sorry this has become so long winded 