no I do not think it is inappropiate to tell a child at any stage that his father or mother wanted an abortion
loads of people when finding themselves pregnant consider abortion there must be a thread on this at least once a week, not everyone considering it goes through with it, it would be incredibly mean and ill judged to tell the resulting child at any point that I/ we considered aborting you
most people who consider abortion and then decide to continue with pregnancy do not love the child less etc ok some parents ( mostly fathers but some mothers may either walk away or resent child but huhne did not whatever has happenned he seems to have acted like reasonable father to the boy for 17 years, neither parent have treated him or his privacy with any respect in past 1-2 years
incidentally I do not think having 12 points on your licence means going to jail, driving ban yes prison no... unless for reckless driving dangerous driving death by reckless driving but not an accumulation of speeding points
so your DP getting speeding points will not result in jail but I can see that someone could be tempted if they would lose their job if they lost their licence
I still would not do it but i do understand