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Lowri again, right or wrong

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desperateSCOUSEwife · 04/05/2006 13:49

Seen an article in daily mail today by the infamous "grid" lowri turner about men should not be at the birth of their children as they just get in the way
Sorry cant do links but what are your opinions

should be men be there when their child is born

or do they just get in the way

imo they should be there to experience the pain of getting their hair ragged from their heads

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mommie · 04/05/2006 13:52

i needed my partner at the birth to keep me distracted and calm during a caesarian. he was genuinely terrific. he 'gowned' up like a doctor and then got mistaken for a consultant my one of the nurses. we had a great laugh - it all helped as i was petrified.

arfy · 04/05/2006 13:54

hm

seems with Lowri that the fathers 'got in the way' in more ways than just at the birth. IMO, obviously, allegedly Grin

It is an individual decision. I loved having mine at the birth but am sure there are others who would rather have noone or a female

nailpolish · 04/05/2006 13:55

ill never forget my dh's face when he saw our dd's for the first time. i cant imagine not having him their.

and if i had sworn and ranted and shouted at anyone else rather than dh like i did to him i would have been arrested. he was very useful, as long as he kept 10 feet away and didnt swear back

nailpolish · 04/05/2006 13:55

that lowri really has it in for men doesnt she?

Angeliz · 04/05/2006 13:56

Dp had to be there.
It just would not have been the same experience without him. We were the only ones who knew what a miracle our babies were.
He cries at the Births but he is just in awe!!

Caligula · 04/05/2006 13:58

She's a silly old bat. No doubt her man did get in the way, and probably so do many. But lots don't and women want them there.

Honestly, I can't believe these silly bints make a living writing shite like this. Wish I could.

juliab · 04/05/2006 13:58

Hmmm. think my dh belongs in the useless camp. he spent my third labour asleep Shock and that was actually more help than he was for the first two!

Piffle · 04/05/2006 13:59

Men should be where their partners and themselves choose to be. It suits some and not others.
How the fuck would the She Bitch (alleged) know what is right for anyone else in the delivery room.
that woman gets right on my tits to be perfectly frank.
She ahs divorced the father of hers so no wonder she's a little ...bitter.

Cappucino · 04/05/2006 14:02

just cos Lowri dates useless men, doesn't mean she gets to get to tell the rest of us what to do

pipe down, silly bottle blonde lady; go back to talking about make-up now, there's a good girl

shoo shoo

alexsmum · 04/05/2006 14:02

i couldn't have got through my labours without dh.first time round we were co-conspiritors giggling away in the wee small hours (on gas abd air)it was such a special atmosphere.we didn't have a midwife with us all the time so it was really intimate.
second time i was most comfortable during contrax with my arms round his neck, leaning on him-so literally couldn't have got through without him.

all depends on your dh i suppose.

juliab · 04/05/2006 14:05

i'm sure there's something in it, though - for some women. i know many midwives think partners can unintentionally inhibit a labouring woman. one recently told me she always tries to send the partner out to get something if the woman's contractions start to slow down because nine times out of ten, it all kicks off again as soon as he's out of the door.
don't know whether that's true - but i think it's interesting

FrayedKnot · 04/05/2006 14:09

Get in the way of what, exactly?

Or maybe the delivery rooms at my local hospital were bigger than average?

blueshoes · 04/05/2006 14:10

Dh was invaluable as a verbal punching bag. Stupid midwife just sat by the window reading her book, occasionally checking the monitor and cranking up the syntocinon. Nice.

beckybrastraps · 04/05/2006 14:11

Perhaps he would like to be present at the birth of his child.

controlfreaky · 04/05/2006 14:12

she nearly bought my house a few years ago..... she was VERY short. but clearly has many opinions to share.

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 14:20

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juliab · 04/05/2006 14:20

Oh well, I'm obviously a lone voice here.
Not that I WANT to defend Lowri or anything.
But I do think some women (not me, by the way) might feel self-conscious labouring in front of their partner. Guess it would depend on the kind of relationship you have.

Harpsichordcarrier · 04/05/2006 14:21

"Say the word "cervix" to many chaps and they will back away from you"
I think I will test this one, ladies. Am off out to shout "cervix" at every man I meet.
will let you know how I get on.
If they don't back away, I might try "vulva" Grin

yeahinaminute · 04/05/2006 15:21

Definitely needed DH there for mine - he's their dad and he wanted to be there.
As for Lowri Turner - when / how did she become an arbiter of STYLE FFS she's an average writer/ below average presenter and deeply un-stylish

PinkKerPlink · 04/05/2006 15:23

she just doesnt like men does she?
she has two sons aswell

FrayedKnot · 04/05/2006 15:29

ROFL at the woman offering her DH a cup of tea mid-labour.

It never occured to me to offer DH a drag on the gas & air, I have to say.

JoolsToo · 04/05/2006 15:45

when I was younger I thought men should be made to go into the delivery suite - now I think that's stupid - they should only go in if they really want to.

I think saying that you really can't manage without him there is twaddle, it might be your dearest wish but can't manage? rubbish!

Dh was me for all 3 until just before delivery and was sent out for one reason or another and was back in straight after - seems a good compromise if your bloke is a bit squeamish.

Pixel · 04/05/2006 20:27

If I hadn't had dh there for my first labour I would have been totally on my own for most of it as the hospital was woefully understaffed. I was pathetically grateful that he was there actually!

dinny · 04/05/2006 20:29

couldn't have done it without dh there - he was such a total star.

she's just bitter

PanicPants · 04/05/2006 20:31

Dp was a star, and he loved the whole experience. I couldn't have coped without him.