Star You know what, I deal with my children by teaching them the behaviour I want and helping them not to behave in ways that are dangerous or harm or upset other people.
My children wouldn't get to 334 times of doing something I didn't want them to because I would look at why they were behaving that way and sort it. So, to take your sofa example;
- maybe they're climbing because it's a normal way for them to practise and develop their gross motor skills...so if I don't want them to climb on the sofa, I'll need to find something that they can climb.
- maybe they're climbing because it gets my attention (334 times of being told no, is 334 lots of attention and if there's no positive attention available, they'll go for being told off or smacked rather than get no attention)...so I'll up the amount of time I spend with them playing and having fun (which will take up the same amount of my time, as telling them off 334 times anyway)
- maybe they're climbing because they have energy to burn...we'll go for a run round the park
- maybe they're bored (which if they're not allowed to explore, they're likely to be)...so I need to distract them with interesting activities.
So, what I'm trying to say is...I choose to teach my child how to behave my showing them (which I won't be if I smack them...in fact I'll be doing the complete opposite of modelling wanted behaviour), telling them and helping hem to do what they want, and giving them lots of positive attention when they're behaving well. This works because you both enjoy the time you spend together, and there's not a lot of
normal, age expected behaviour naughtiness.
Or I could make use of my adult reasoning, planning and logical thinking skills...by telling them off 334 times, before losing my temper and whacking them.