I bought up 2 kids on my own?..2 different dads?.
At that time you couldn't make private arrangements with absent fathers because at the time only CSA assessments were recognised?10 years ago, my daughter was 8 years old and my son was 2 years old.
One father paid, the other didn't?
At this point my daughter's father has never paid any money. Every year I get a letter from the CSA telling me what he now owes. At this point it is approx £13,000 outstanding..
They sent me a letter recently telling me that he would pay it off at £5.00 a week. She will be 60 years old when this debt is paid?he will be 83. Still haven't received any money from him and probably never will. Can't sue the CSA for their mishandling but can apply for compensation for them cocking it up so badly. Which they agree they have. `I did suggest that maybe they could pay me the £13,000 which I would use for his daughter's education and they could collect it from him at £5 per week!!!
My sons father, we were about to be married, scarpered with all our savings and put it into property. He has reduced his income over the years. He doesn't need to work because he has paid off his mortgage, nice for some!
I was shocked to find that the CSA didn't take Childcare into account when both parents work. So as the parent with care, i.e. a woman, that was my sole responsibility. Why? Could never understand how that was fair..to penalise the sole carer who works, but I sucked it up.
I did find decent childcare, who I paid for looking after the children while I slowly built up my business.
My daughter gained 3A's at A level just as they introduced the fees for university.
I have had to dedicate my life solely to work and my kids. I have had no social life for 10 years, forget a relationship. When??
I have, I feel, against all the odds that successive governments have thrown at me, risen to the challenge for my children.
Of course, it comes at a great cost personally. Basically I don't have a life at all, I go from work, to the kids, to work, to the kids.
I have finally broken through the ceiling.
Which means I now won't be getting Child Benefit!!
I'm not that worried about it financially. But it is the sheer unfairness, unjustness towards, mostly working women with children that, is to me unacceptable.
Luckily, on my journey I have managed to pick up an O1 Visa to work in the United States.
Don't want to jump ship.
But if this happens, I'm out?
I am sick of fighting on my own.
I think I should be regarded as an asset to this country, not someone who should be further penalised for being a successful working woman..It's not my fault I'm not married.
Plus, although my daughter, will be well educated by the time she graduates I shall be sure to tell her to get pregnant, sign on, get pregnant again.
Because, if she works, and has kids, if the relationship doesn't work out, whether it is her fault or not she will be paying tax which will go to people like David Cameron and Sam?..for their Child Benefit.
Let's get this joker out of the government ASAP