"and women without 'clinical need' aren't treated with horror and contempt for choosing a c-section"
You know why I put that shag? Because quite honestly I DO feel persecuted by the attitude that I keep hearing repeatedly all over the press and from some people on this forum. I CAN NOT TALK TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY ABOUT THIS.
If you read even half the comments on other forums ALL they say is the £800 bollocks cos thats ALL thats been reported, they are cruel, callous, insensitive, rude, ignorant, judgmental... I could go on. The language such as "sliced open", "soft option". It just all appauls me. No regard for the wording or the tone of the document and no regard for the fact that its been done as mental health was a key element to it. None of the right questions being asked (some of which you HAVE asked). JUST NASTINESS.
And then to pretty much prove my point, two posts after what you put, you get someone who can't be effing arsed to read what anyone else has put and just pretty much calls everyone "lazy" who gets one with her remark about us all getting a colostomy bag. Making out that women who might make this decision are too thick to understand what major surgery is.
So yeah, I do have a chip on my shoulder about it, cos I'm so frikkin sick of hearing the same old crap and wording that constantly has c-section = bad VB = good, instead of a more balanced approach. Its funny, I stumbled across a blog of a British woman living in france who was pleased with the decision in the UK - in another of her posts she talks about the differences in attitude in the rest of europe and the US. Her comment was that it was only the British and the Americans who had such negative views on c-sections and made women feel like pariahs if they expressed a wish for a c-section.
WHY? Why is this not a problem to Germans and Swedes? Why are we constantly hounded by this "too posh to push culture" in the UK? Its utterly disguisting and positively backward. Frankly we shouldn't be having this fight. Its not of your or anyone else damn business what I think it best for me but sadly it seems to be regarded as needing a public flogging.
If people want to argue against it, thats fine. Make rational arguments, listen to the opposite side of the story make a goddam effort to understand why they are doing this. But aside from you on this thread shag, people against it are almost all just completely hysterical, doom mongering judgmentalists.
There needs to be a wholesale change in attitude to c-sections in this country. Not just about electives but also about emergencies too. It is not right that women should feel like they have failed if they end up with one and its not right that women should be defensive if they choose one. Its not right that the NCT want to behave like creationists refusing to teach about evolution. Its not right that the risks of a VB are not talked about in the same way they are for a CS.
So sorry I'm angry and upset. Sorry, you don't seem to understand just how much attitudes are effecting women. I'm sorry you don't see the parallel or why people are so defensive. It is exactly the same type of thing as the breast feeding bollocks. Its the language and tone used as much as the comments.
its just after 3 days and seeing very very little decent coverage in the media about this (one article in huffington post, one in the torygraphy and an half assed BBC interview) I feel disillusions and despairing about how this is going to end up rolling out. I fear its going to just be completely and utterly ignored by Trusts.