scaryteacher, its a very insular and bblinkered way of tlooking at things from a ' well i did it so everyone can do it' point of view.
a lot of this is luck and circumstance - sure you can plan to own your home...to a degree.
you need some sort of semi decent wages - a bit more than minimum wage for a deposit
you need quite a big deposit these days
so then we are debating good jobs and wages rather than housing...lets not go there right now - it leads to education, parenting and well we would be here all night...so leaving all that significant part of the argument to one side...
Dh and i bought a house we could afford. we had one child. we planned for one more child, we had twins. you can't plan for that.
then the interest rates went sky high - those interest rates you are talking about in the 90's
well those meant that our house was re-posessed.
so i find myself with three kids on a council estate not being able to afford gas for the meter on xmas day.
i now own my own home thanks to the bank of my dead mother. - ver fortunate that she bought using cash from my dead father in the 70's
i am fortunate in a way that a lot of people arent'
you can plan some, but if house prices are unaffordable - your back to children being just for the rich
choosing between saving for your kids university education or a house - saving for a deposit - AND and emergency cushion? yeah right~!
stable job in this economy - good luck.