I think thunders is being unkind, but I know what she means.
There is a tendency to think that if you are playing devil's advocate that you are being more reasonable and thoughtful than people who think obvious truths are still obvious.
And it happened on this thread. There was a lot of credence given to Tabak's account of the murder, despite the fact that he was a proven liar, who had gone to extreme lengths to cover up the murder.
Why would anybody have taken his version of events as anything other than the self-serving bullshit it obviously was?
And then to bask in your own fairness and ability to see both sides is infuriating.
Particularly when it is often this kind of faux reasonableness that is used to minimise, justify or deny crimes against women.
See yesterday's Eamonn Holmes thread - "oh dear, you were raped. But really, you should have taken a taxi."
"Oh your husband broke your nose. I'm sure there is some perfectly reasonable explanation. We're only hearing one side of the story"