Single mothers are better mothers says Lowri Turner

[jasper]

Anyone read this recent piece? Not sure where it is published but it was referred to on The Wright Stuff this morning.
Apparently LT is claiming women raising kids alone do it better then those who have the interference of a man!
I'd love to know the substance of what she wrote.
I searched online without success.

HERE

Oh, this is like an historic archive - FIVE YEARS OLD - brilliant. Was really enjoying the dumpy insults too...

It's interesting that LT has been writing all this weird nonsensical stuff in exactly the same style for such a long time, through single motherhood and a new relationship and back again.

From what I can see I think she will just write anything that will get a reaction and keep her employed. She's constantly contradicting herself, as well as all logical thought and evidence. But I suppose as a single parent working freelance, she needs to be canny to keep the work rolling in. I do read her pieces sometimes just to see the latest outrageous/ridiculous statement she's come up with.

FioFio - eh?

lol

""It's awful for young boys to hear that "men aren't needed". "

Don't let them trawl through your back catalogue then Turner!

I understand the knee-jerk outrage at what must immediately seem like a daft comment, but the thing is...

I know exactly what she means.

It is definitely easier for me to be a better mother now that I'm not tip-toeing 'round an unsupportive man. None of my normal decisions or choices are undermined and challenged. I don't have to keep the children quiet to suit him, or eat late to suit him etc etc etc

BUT IF the children's father is emotionally and practically and financially supportive (unlike many children's father) then of course that wouldn't be the case.

What she's saying really is, if your husband isn't helping you then life without him will be easier and she's right and this is a message that unhappy, unsupported women need to take on board. I see it again and again on this board. Intelligent women who are miserable don't even contemplate ending the relationship, because then they would be a single mother

Feel a bit about the dumpy comments!! I'm only five foot one and 1) I have no power to change that 2) it's not my fault 3) I thought we were supposed to allow real women to deviate from the 'ideal', and like motherinferior, the only negative comments I've had about being 'dumpy' are from tall women, usually when a tall man was interested in me. Cos tall men don't seem to care. They tell short women that short women are their favourites, they tell tall women that tall women are their favourites.

The article she wrote about her mixed-race daughter beggared belief.

I think she has 2 boys from her marriage and a daughter from her last relationship, I think she is just a bit of a man hater myself. She's always going on about how useless they are on The Wright Stuff.

What even Matthew Wright? He's lovely. Who could hate him [sigh]

If I'd been in the public eye, some of the things I said about my x would have made me look very bitter. But they were all true, he did hit me, and verbally abuse me, and not give us any money, and try to prevent me from leaving etc... but there is a short time-frame in which you're allowed to say this stuff. I don't know, 4 months? and to close friends and family.

If you say it and it's out there, for ever, it's held against you for ever, as though you're still bitter four years later.

I'm glad nothing I said about my x is on record.

My kids are much happier now I'm settled with dp (not their dad) I share care with their real dad though as he's as good a parent as me and misses them just as much. exdh and I do get on well though and I'm not a man hater.

I think single parents...whether male or female...can be better off without a partner if being with said partner causes stress on the kids. But a couple together wanting the best for the kids is surely as good?

All families are different especially nowadays when we don't have to stay for the sake of the children but choose to leave instead.

Liffey, it's not the fact that she is 5'1", so don;t take it personally - it's that she's total hypoctite who keeps proudly proclaiming her hypocrisy at every opportunity - and gets paid for it! For a supposed social commentator who talks about the world going to the dogs, it's ironic that she seems blind to the fact that she's part of the problem, not the solution.

Thank you very much lillypie!!

LT definitely needs her head testing. If she thinks along those lines, what chance has the child got???

I am "dumpy" too!!! Being all of 4'11!!

Hmmm... she chooses to have kids with someone, and then decides that the kids are better off without both parents......

sounds like a severe case of sour grapes to me!!

P.S Wonder if their dad thinks that single dads are better!!!

Lowri Turner has always been a silly bitch (to my great joy I got the better of her on a talk show once and steam nearly came out of her ears...). However, it's far better to be a single mum than to remain in a relationship with an arsehole. Women who are no longer exhausted from having to do all the housework to hte man's standards, all the childcare and stroke the man's ego and allow him sex whenever he wants it often make better mothers as they are happier and have more time for their children. And it can be pretty good to have an amicable co-parent relationship with your DC's other bio parent without any wish to be a couple.

solid, I'd love to see that! is it on youtube? did you record it!???