Thank you to all those people here who are finding and posting the information about how all this is coming about.
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because although I am regarded as articulate and intelligent I do not understand most of it until some kind soul comes along and translates it into "laymens" terms.
Many good points are coming out of this thread on a basic level regarding the way we are "blinded by science" and how it keeps driving us away from the core issue, which is how best, as a compassionate and civilised society, do we care for our sick and disabled, and help those who love them to participate in that care without becoming understandably overwhelmed and facing huge crises.
I keep coming back to "money". I feel like we are all running a race, with the starting point of what we instinctively feel is right, and the care I mention being the finish line. We start running, because it will only take me a second to get there, it's not a long distance and it simply requires focussing - we want to run the race, because the race needs to be run. However, the race organisers realise that if we win the race, they will have to share their prize. For them, the winning line is money, because they believe that money is the key to winning, not focus, or determination, or attitude, or actions inspired by those things. For them only money can solve the problems. So they keep putting hurdles in the way.
The hurdles start small, and we have a go at them. We manage the first few, because we are determined to reach our goal. We do the hurdles to prove our committment to the goal, not because we believe in the hurdles. But we think if we go along with the hurdles the race organisers will let us reach the finish line. But it's not enough, and before long we feel we have to focus more on the hurdles than the winning line, because we start to believe one is dependent on the other, when really, it doesn't have to be.
Before long we don't know if we are running the race to get to the finish line, or to allow the organisers to build hurdles, which they believe are important. We get distracted because we start wondering if the hurdles could be improved. We try to get to the winning line and co-operate with the hurdle builders, even though it's a contradiction, because we want to believe that really we are all trying to get to the winning line together, and we know we have to listen to each others ideas and respect them, and try them out.
When we get close to the finish line, we can see people suffering. We feel bad, but we believe we have tried our best. We have been hurdling to get there, and trying to improve the hurdles to make it easier. But there is always another hurdle.
We apologise and ask for the patience and understanding of those suffering. They are close to death maybe, or unable to do things we all take for granted for many reasons, and only want to spend their life in peace. The hurdles, and our attempts to get over them mean very little.
Because we feel embarrassed and ashamed at our failure, and we don't want to feel those emotions, we start to try and spread them around, because misery loves company, and eventually we even hit out at the suffering. We try to examine if the reasons they are suffering are "their own fault". This upsets them.
So some of them give up, and take control of their own destiny. They commit suicide. This causes the people around them to suffer from the loss, many more reasons for the loss than should be necessary, and perpetuates the need for more care. Some people have their last moments filled with the strife generated by their loved ones having to fight for their care. We demand stoicism, though as we are not "suffering" ourselves we have no actual idea what it entails perhaps.
Then we decide to start a new race, but we start with the hurdles in place, hoping they are the right hurdles. But they breed. We try again. And again. Suffering and dying doesn't change. Only the hurdles do.
People who are running the race lose heart and start to suffer themselves. But now they believe there have to be hurdles. That's just the way it is.
Of course the only answer to removing the hurdles is money. You can buy off the organisers of the race. If you have enough money you don't have to attempt the hurdles. Even if deep down you know this is not helpful to people who are suffering who have no money, you only know how to live in the context of enough money. You can't see a different way. You are scared of trying a different way because money is absolutely necessary, even though we have learned how to feed, clothe and house ourselves and now can have luxuries too. We don't put suffering people ahead of luxuries though. We believe that the money generated by luxuries will be put into the race to get to the suffering, and other people will do that and we have to trust them. They have money, and power, and control. We trust them to do the right thing. They believe they are doing the right thing, maybe are trying to do it too. But because they believe they have to hold onto their money in one hand, they can only do half the good.
Because of money, truth and trust have to be tempered with holding onto it. So there is none.
We still don't understand why we're suffering, and we don't like to talk about it out loud in simple terms, for fear of being accused of naivety and then we start to express our frustration in anger. People mistake anger at suffering with other people wanting their money. And maybe we do believe that we need the money. We have been brainwashed, in the name of alleged civilisation and alleged intelligence. We are too sophisticated for such simple concepts as treating each other equally. We even encourage people who think differently to suffer, and push them out of society and try to punish them when they come close to hitting on truth and trust.
If you have read all the way to end of this thank you.
If you agree with any or all of it, thank you.
If you agree that we could make a difference if we explained things over and over again in real peoples language, avoiding the issue of money, then I would like to try, and would like to try in conjunction with other people who feel similarly.
If it feels like taking a risk, well, if you are able to take the risk of getting up everyday and hoping that things will get better, then it's only as big a risk as doing that.
Have a beautiful day because you are. :)