Sorry I haven't read the whole of this thread... and the post is massive.
My husband told me a few weeks ago about a family that came to him needing debt advice. They earnt £65000 in total in benefits, I think in part cos they had 6 kids, and they were struggling to survive. How?
It is very difficult line to draw on who gets benefits. On the one hand you have people who use benefits as a lifestyle, out of choice but on the other hand you have people who have no other choice. How do you determine who falls in which category? How do you ensure people get jobs? What if there are actually no jobs available?
My brother-in-law started his own business. At present he barely covers running costs let alone paying himself or his father any salary, yet the jobcentre refuse to pay him (after they helped him set this business up) because he is actually 'earning' some money he can't possibly need benefits. He works hard despite having ME and yet still has no money from the government or from his work. Meanwhile his wife who can claim JSA can't find a teaching job in which to use her skills and is not allowed to help her husband grow his business without losing her benefits too!
I think the system should and has to change. The government cannot allow people to believe that living off benefits as a lifestyle is acceptable. They also need to address the issue of young people getting pregnant just so they can be given council accommodation and benefits. People in council housing should be encouraged to move out and buy their own housing as soon as they can. People should be taught how to manage their money and prevent themselves from getting into debt.
None of these things will happen overnight. These changes need to be taught by parents to their children and by teachers in schools.
The ultimate question lies in HOW you can possibly address these issues, change the habits of a lifetime for some people, redress the inequality in earnings, encourage people to work when they actually don't want to, and help those who genuinely actually need help.