OK then 2shoes and riven meet you at Soixante's with teh kids for an 8am frop off OK?
Soixante, I think with the Sn tehre you might want to prpare... Riv's needs constantc are, 2shoe's daughter is odler but in a chair, my ds1 is very aggressivce so you have to supervise him constantly but you woudln;t want him close ot Riv's dd without an adult epr child (and the adult might get harmed so make sure your insurance is +++++, likewise your household insiurance- he bashed through a wall here once, well in the last house). DS3 is fine but needs constant communication help, watching all the time and IIRC each of teh kids needs a very different dirt.
Okey doke 
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To be fair, I never had any of my kids relying on a banefit; I won't lose out either becuase caring reeduces your chances of being in that tax band hugely (doesn#t prevent, but reduces). But life can sometimes stink and it throws you off course and be honest- if your child was hit by a bus or you were, could you cope financially?
Plus the very basic there aren't enough jobs. Oh go and make one people say: well, dh does have his own (very small) business that he's growing and it's not easy in a recession, hardly ideal tiome unless you#re selling debt or repo solutions! And it grts as basic as a lot of people can't work from a privately rented home or cannot raise the capital due to the banking crunch.
now, if you rewally want to help women work, campaign on those, or the lack of flexible childcare for shifts and SN.
Don't just blame though; I was a charity manager before ASD came and bit us. Higher wage than any of my friends.
AS for teh mumsy benefits (WTF? Are tehre no SAD's in your world?) which ones precisely, may I ask?