thanks SanctiMoanyArse
I felt very emotional reading your posts...as you said so well what i feel.
For me , having 3 with AS/ADHD.... I just wonder sometimes...what percentage of the percentages....i'd fall into....
additionally... I have OCD and am sure if there were a simple bloodtest etc...I'd be found to have AS too.
And....My husband....
And.....My parents.....and my brother....and his eldest daughter (age 3 parents think that as she is a girl she won't 'catch' (Grrrrrr) ASD!!!!)
A real genetic cocktail....
That is why the slightest hint of a genetic link interested me...as it reflects what my life demonstrates.
The AS/ASD/ADHD link i am particularily interested in... MY longheld theory (based purely on my family experiences etc) is that IF there were a genetic link....it would follow they had ASD too.... and the ADHD'ers that had NO co-morbids etc...would be the ones that showed no genetic link...and were better responsive to diet changes etc.
For me... My experience of ADHD is that diet has no impact (ie colourings etc) - The 'hyperactivity' shown IS different in an ASD person than in a 'typical-everyones'idea-of-what-ADHD-is....ie....red cheeked...running everywhere...destructive'
To me, ASD hyperactivity is about increased talking about favourite subject...pacing around (inability to stay still)- climbing on and off things- increase of repetitive movements (hand flapping/spinning things etc), sensory overloads, chewing &fiddling with things .... etc
So all 3 of mine take methylphenidate (concerta) and it lessons the 'hyperactivity behaviours' i mentioned above.
But...when i tell people my sons have ADHD...they don't believe me...they have never seen mine running manicly around...cos they don't...but when the meds wear off.... they start to fidget/squirm/climb/pace/spin/chew/talk excessivley/get irratated by noises & smells....
For me...this shows another 'difference' between the 'typical ' ADHD and the ASD /ADHD... the effect/result of meds...
Basically, ASD people do NOT easily learn appropriate behaviours... they can persist to do 'the wrong thing' despite getting shouted at 100's of times...they never seem to learn. They continue to get in the same fights at school...they don't seem to have the ability to 'learn from mistakes' etc....
So...the meds...while on them they cope better.
When they wear off, they return to exactly as they were....
However...what i was lead to believe with 'ADHD/meds' was whilst on the meds...there is a 'window of opertunity' to 'educate' the child in appropriate behaviours...
So for years i tried... and it made no difference- and some say then whats the point of meds? So...we experimented without meds...and their self esteem lowered...
The point is for an ASD child... to exist in a world that is constanly confusing and in which they 'never seem to get it right'.... to have a few hours under the meds means they get a break from failure.
I don't know if this applies to all ASD's...
The thing is, if mine don't take meds.. .. they feel the difference.The problem is at 19 they have no automatic right to continue the meds- as its not licenmsd for adults.