Mother & disabled daughter found (don't open thread if you are upset by sad stories)

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It doesn't give much info but I just heard on the news this morning that it looks like the mother died some weeks ago, and the disabled daughter - it implied - died after some weeks because she was unable to care for herself, or raise the alarm.

I know, as the mother of 2 children with disabilities, that you are truly alone in this world if you are a carer but oh my god. Something is very wrong with the system. This is just too dreadful.

I read that the mother very much kept herself to herself & didn't like people coming into her house, so I don't think the system is to blame for this one

though

It's just awful.

Indeed. I wonder how many people are on no-ones radar and are at risk of something like this.

but as a carer for your disabled child, you really are on your own. Unless you fight and shout and make a noise (and annoy social services who can then either help or choose to make your life a living hell!) then nobody cares about you. Those poor people. Oh that poor girl, left alone with her mother's body, unable to

Sorry, forget that train of thought, it's too awful to type, too horrible to think of. This story has really upset me. But more than that, it has ANGERED me! Something needs to change. This cannot happen again.

x post - ponders, I didn't read that. Where was that reported?

But it raises yet another question about care and support of people with disabilities, doesn't it?

I agree. When you think about it, it's dreadfully sad. Years ago, when we had communities, if someone hadn't been seen for a day or 2, someone would go round and check if they were ok.

Nowadays, how many people would even recognise their neighbour in the street, let alone remember the last time they saw them, or think to check on them?

And there's the £. How much does it cost social services to care for a person with a disability? £600 a week? £700? more?

How much does it cost if they ignore them? Carers allowance? if you're not working because it's means tested of course.

It's a system failure and it's a failure in the whole of society also.

I am not the parent of a disadled child and have very little experience of what it is like but I am so chocked that most people on here say the same thing, that there is no help, I imaginesd things could get very hard but I thought that people got some sort of support.

It is so chocking in this day in age where we can communicate within seconds with people on the other side of the planet but do not know our next door neighbours. Something quite rottent with the way we live.

I think there is something wrong with society if people honestly didn't notice that they hadn't been in or out etc. Surely there must be some people that they were in regular contact with in the community A shop? A delivery person?

When society fails then the authorities should step in but as has been pointed out already if people aren't on the radar they can't be helped.

terribly tragic.
I just read that the mother refused help.
so very sad.
sadly imo we will hear more stories like this as respite and ss budgets are cut.

"I just read that the mother refused help.
"

That's the spin the LA are putting on it - and we don't believe them do we?

trouble is often the only option is residential care and not all parents want that

It's a truly dreadful situation but people would complain strongly if help was forced on them. The mother made the choice after social services and charities offered help.