Is it right that Chris Browns family are banning Samantha Stobbard from his funeral?

[DetectivePotato]

I don't really know where I stand.

Just read it in the paper today that the family totally blame her for what happened and she isn't allowed to the funeral or to see his body.

I understand that it is hard for them as she lied about his occupation, but who is to say Moat wouldn't have done the same just because he was dating his ex?

On the other hand, her lying when she knew Moat had a hatred of the police seems downright daft but could she have predicted what he would do?

Who knows?

Gosh that seems rather harsh; who on earth could have predicted than an enraged steroided-up recently-released-from-prison ex-boyfriend would shoot him?

They'd only been going out for a couple of weeks, hadn't they? So his family probably don't really know her.

Not fair to blame her for what happened at all though. The person to blame is the evil toerag who thought he could thump women and children and murder his ex because she dared to leave him.

I think they had only been together a few weeks, but I too thought it was harsh to blame her. They do though, they said what happened was completely her fault (obviously nothing to do with the gun toting maniac then ). She looks awful and will be the one carrying that guilt around now.

poor woman

IMO the family are wrong to say this and may well regret it one day

if its a church funeral, it is a public service and anyone can attend not sure about other venues though

I think they have the right tbh to do this. They had only been together a week and tbh I can't help thinking he wouldn't be dead if she hadn't have lied.

She has also got £125,000 for her story and it all sounds awful.

I can totally see their POV, it makes me cross when I hear them described as "partners" when they'd only been together a week, its only natural that they will blame her rightly or wrongly.
Perpetuallyannoyed - I certainly wouldn't regret it if it was my son, I'd regret that he'd met het in the first place.

their son had chosen to be with this woman

had her ex not been a psycho they may have gone on to marry and have children, who knows

yes she lied about his job, because she was terrified, she hoped that might put him off coming after her, which she was sure he would do, and she was right - he did. I dont think it made any difference , he would have shot the new man in her life regardless, I really think he would

they have nothing to gain by being bitter, and i do not mean that to sound uncaring

They have nothing to gain, but you can understand why they are .. and maybe they feel without her there his funeral will be less of a circus than its guaranteed to be already. Of course his death is not her fault, but without her/Raoul Moat he'd be alive.

It's not only natural to blame her. It's wrong. I have enormous sympathy for them but their anger is misplaced. She's a victim too.

Yes, she lied (can understand why!!), but do they know that it wasn't his idea? Or that it wasn't something he supported, as he hoped it would keep her safe?

His occupation has nothing to do with it really, Moat would have shot him regardless of his job.

Disagree with them blaming her. On a side note, though - had they really only been together a week? What is the threshold for starting to use the term 'partner' now?

It's grief talking of course. And probably a real fear of the media circus that her presence would increase.

But still it's amazing how automatic it seems to be to blame the victim.

She is a victim and I feel for her but in grief I would probably feel the same as the family and just wish he had never met her. Think she should respect their wishes as I doubt her grief for him is anywhere near what they are going though and the last thing needed is any agro at the funeral when emotions are raw. Hope she recovers and has a happy life though.