What's my options now!

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To keep this short - I contacted my housing association regarding a management transfer. A panel was formed on the 8/05 and I received the decision in the mail today. It read that I meet the threshold for a transfer but unfortunately they can't offer me suitable accommodation within their six month transfer policy as they don't have any properties available.

To give context I had approached my local council before going through the management transfer process and was told that I had a suitable property and my case was closed.

My reason for a management transfer was to avoid going into a refuge. My son 8mo is on a CIN plan because of DV from ex husband. I have been told that it's unsafe for me to remain in my property. The last altercation resulted in my ex husband physically attacking my 20yo daughter.

What do I do next? I'm currently staying at my friend's house, she lives in a one bedroom flat and it's tight.

I've approached my local council and they have refused to support me, I've approached my housing association and they are saying I meet the threshold yet they don't have any properties.

I know my options are limited and a refuge is what will be offered next. The problem is I work full time, I have a secured tenancy and that will have to be sacrificed if I move into a refuge. I have spoken to them on the phone and they have advised me to leave my job as it's a risk, plus housing benefit wouldn't cover my rent and believe it or not the rent is diabolical. One refuge was charging £360 a week!

The financial stain not to mention the anxiety of where me and my son would end up scares me greatly.

Most of you will say it's my safety that's a priority and I completely agree, I just can't help but feel like I'm sacrificing so much because of someone else's behaviour.

Can I challenge my housing association on this, how is it possible to meet the threshold yet they can't help to relocate me.

My housing association is Network Homes, they have new developments all over London I struggle to see who they don't have any properties available.

To keep this short - I contacted my housing association regarding a management transfer. A panel was formed on the 8/05 and I received the decision in the mail today. It read that I meet the threshold for a transfer but unfortunately they can't offer me suitable accommodation within their six month transfer policy as they don't have any properties available.

To give context I had approached my local council before going through the management transfer process and was told that I had a suitable property and my case was closed.

My reason for a management transfer was to avoid going into a refuge. My son 8mo is on a CIN plan because of DV from ex husband. I have been told that it's unsafe for me to remain in my property. The last altercation resulted in my ex husband physically attacking my 20yo daughter.

What do I do next? I'm currently staying at my friend's house, she lives in a one bedroom flat and it's tight.

I've approached my local council and they have refused to support me, I've approached my housing association and they are saying I meet the threshold yet they don't have any properties.

I know my options are limited and a refuge is what will be offered next. The problem is I work full time, I have a secured tenancy and that will have to be sacrificed if I move into a refuge. I have spoken to them on the phone and they have advised me to leave my job as it's a risk, plus housing benefit wouldn't cover my rent and believe it or not the rent is diabolical. One refuge was charging £360 a week!

The financial stain not to mention the anxiety of where me and my son would end up scares me greatly.

Most of you will say it's my safety that's a priority and I completely agree, I just can't help but feel like I'm sacrificing so much because of someone else's behaviour.

Can I challenge my housing association on this, how is it possible to meet the threshold yet they can't help to relocate me.

My housing association is Network Homes, they have new developments all over London I struggle to see who they don't have any properties available.

Hi OP

I'm really sorry you're going through this and so sorry I don't have much advice.

I guessed you were in London before you mentioned it further down your post. From what I understand things are particularly horrific there and getting housing or DV help is immensely hard.

Are children's services doing anything to help with the housing association or council? Or are they just saying to go to the refuge?

Of course the safety of you and your DC is the priority but I completely understand why you don't want to give up your financial and housing security, especially at an already horribly stressful time.

I do think unfortunately the refuge might be the best or only option for you in the immediate term. You need to keep yourself and DC safe. However, once there look into getting help from refuge staff or a solicitor to challenge your HA or council.

With your job. Services are saying it's too dangerous to stay in the job? Assume this is because your ex knows where you work?

I don't want to get your hopes up, but you've nothing to lose by exploring possibilities. Perhaps you could ask about taking unpaid leave? If your manager agrees, perhaps it will be safe to go back after the refuge (especially if by then your ex thinks you've left the job).

Hopefully someone with more experience and knowledge than me will see your post and give you some advice. I hope whatever happens things work out well for you in the end x

Hi Op
I feel your pain I currently on management transfer and they said it can take up to a year for me. I am currently staying between friends and family and my home. I am Currently waiting for non molestation order to be granted.
My dd is currently on and EHCP so I don't want to move her school to school as I want her to have some stability.

I am currently working. When my HA told me to approach the local council as homeless. The council said they could help me but I would be placed out of London. I can't do that! my job is my bread and butter. So I told my housing Association I not going to change my daughter school to then change it again. Plus I need to get into work. So my situation I can manage untill management transfer comes through. yes my ex husband knows where I work if he comes I will call police not a problem.
Try and get a non molestation order through NCDV they are really good.

The local authority is dismissing you they have a duty of care. You have a child the SS can write a letter supporting you, if you have been accepted for management transfer take that letter to the council and show them. They cannot turn you away. But most likely they will move you out of London until the manage move find you you a place. Sometimes management transfer give you a guideline of how long sometimes times it is usually shorter.

I wish you all the best