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blahblahblabblahblah100 · 10/07/2019 17:34

I have an elderly auntie who I have concerns for...she is being neglected by her daughter. There is so much to say, that I'm not sure I would be able to put all down here.
Some things are;

•Telling her she smells, but not helping with hygiene even though she needs help now
•Not allowing carers to be employed as auntie needs it, and aunty has even asked to go in a home, but daughter won't allow.
•Daughter won't let aunty sell her car (unable to drive now) as she uses it, but makes aunty pay for fuel, insurance etc
•Let's her fall when with her, and refused to take her to hospital with head Injury
•Made her open a letter from solicitor in front of her, it was change of will, daughter now brings it up all the time about how her children are only being left half of what they originally were
• aunty has opening said she doesn't do xyz as will upset daughter, and would rather suffer
• daughter frequently refuses her to see children as a weapon
• daughter son stole £1700 from aunty, and daughter won't pay it back (he is 11, used credit card on Xbox)
• takes aunty away so she can pay for the holiday, but then leaves her alone in the accommodation or looking after the children, which aunty really isn't fit to do as very unsteady in feet, early dementia etc
• has full access to auntys money and credit cards and uses them
• buys food once a week, and stuff goes mouldy, which aunty wouldn't recognize now.

Daughter lives across road, but only sees mother when needing her money.

I want to report this as its abuse in sense of financial and neglect. There is so much more than mentioned, but I can't list it all. I want to make a safeguarding complaint anonymously...I want to do this so daughter doesn't know that aunty has confined what has been happening as don't want to make things worse for her. Does anyone know how to do this and to who?

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UserThenLotsOfNumbers · 10/07/2019 17:36

Sounds awful. Presumably you need to contact social services with your concerns? Have you tried contacting e.g. Age UK for advice?

HappyHammy · 23/07/2019 22:18

Contact aunties g.p. and adult social services safeguarding team. You can also call Elder Abuse UK.

jaggynettle · 23/07/2019 23:02

Sounds awful and you're right - blatant abuse. The prev posters are right re social services. It's a protection of vulnerable adult concern. I hope your Aunt can escape her clutches. My great gran was in a similar position - robbed by an aunt, had her pension and saving regularly dipped. I didn't know about it at the time as I was a child but the aunt was almost prosecuted however my great gran didn't want to take it further.

I hope you get the best outcome for her.

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