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Used, abused, pregnant. Can he take my baby?

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Jaja686 · 17/09/2018 19:58

Hi everyone,

I'd really appreciate your help as I have no clue what to do or think anymore.
I've been in a relationship for little over than a year. Over 6 months out of that my ex"partner" lied about his name and background. Kept me in temporary houses. Made a lot of excuses why he did that so I believed him. He forbid me from talking to other people, to work, I wasn't allowed to go even shopping for food or walk on my own. Even locked me in the house once and kept the keys with him all day although I suffered from depression and my psychologist advised me to get as much of a fresh air I can. Made me delete all of my social media accounts, even phone contacts except my mother's and brother's. Then we argued he was always comming up with things like I'm not allowed to use my contraception etc. Why don't I love him like a proper partner whenever I said it isn't right to ask things like that.

Now we broke up I don't want to have anything to do with this person but few days ago I found out I'm pregnant unfortunately have had an accident few years ago and suffer from arthritis so cannot do much of a work let along when I'll put another 20kg on top. Right now I work in a carer sector but working with chemicals and walking all day isn't really ok for me as I cannot stand for more than few hrs a day before the pain starts to be unbearable and I loose the ability to walk for another few days after that. I'd try anything else but right now I also live with my ex as he's my only family here. I cannot possibly expect him to take care of me and my child I have with another guy.

My biggest fear is that he might be trying to get to us one day as he's done that in past. Does he have any right over my baby? I'm scared. Please help. Do you have any advice please..? I don't know what to do.

Thank you all so much

Jana

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