pregnant sick and house a shambles

[wonderif]

all of the above am strugglig to find the energy to get my house into order.

my dh does help but just doesnt seem to bothered by the mess

hey - first, give yourself a break. I don't suppose you're entering into any tidy house competitions right now. So don't sweat it.

Second, undoubtedly it will make you feel better if you feel a bit more in control of things. Could you say to dh (dc?) - let's get the living room under control today. You'll probably have it done in under an hour. Then sit in it, have a cup of tea and congratulate yourselves on a job well done. Do other rooms on the same basis as and when you have the time and inclination.

If you're knackered withthe pregnancy etc, can you go and have a quick nap first to fire yourself up a bit?

Poor you, chaos is depressing and pregnancy is energy-sapping.

Apart from DH, is there anyone who could give you a hand to get back on top of things? Can you thrown money at it and get someone in to help?

we would often do this can you sort living room i do kitchen etc it lasts a day and is back to normal.

i have just been so sick for 6 weeks ad really is taking its toll.

i started the living room last night as dh was on 12 hour niteshift and i work part time evenings.

god love him he came in and told me to lie down he would keep eye on kids for an hour.

i could maybe get someone in but would be too embarrased as it is.

This too shall pass! Do you do FlyLady? I find it very good for just doing little bits here and there that eventually add up to a clean house. Break it down into little tasks and give half to them to dh.
You poor thing, I used to suffer horribly with morning sickness and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!

thanks chipmonkey its awful as u know just so dehabilting, i am 12 weeks this wk so hope it passes soon.

we go on hols for a week at end of june and have a lot to sort out but want to have a clean house to come back too.

only a week and half of work then am off for 3 weeks so will give me a gud break then.

this is baby 3 and i have a 4 yr old and sn 6 year old its hard work but worth it.

i think i will give flylady a go thanks

off to get ready going out for a couple of hours, kids bathed off to shower me now lol.

will do some more when come back.

don't be embarrassed! Have you ever cleaned for anyone else? I worked one summer as a chambermaid in the serviced apartments in a smart hotel near where I grew up. Very rich people would stay there. You'd never imagine the mess they could make in just a week! It was the grill pans that really got me...

Anyway, I also worked in some far less upmarket beach villas at the bottom of the hill, where normal people could afford to stay. Never the filth that the celebs seemed happy to live with in them... So the muckier you are, the classier you are obviously!

And when you're a cleaner, you're just doing your job. You get paid, and go home. I never thought that the people I was cleaning for were thinking very much about me, if at all!

So if you can afford it, and it would take a load off you mind (you are ill fgs), then just get someone in and be done with it.

When i was pregnant with DD2 (now 5 weeks old) i felt awful right up until 37 weeks, i did nothing! Then from 37 weeks until 42 weeks all i did was clean from 6am until 11pm i was rushing around doing something, after the birth i wasnt well House got into a state again and have only just started getting back into my routine. All this has taught me that having children means there will always be something to do but it will get done eventually, no point beating yourself up! My DP works nights so its hard for him to help as hes usually sleeping, my two girls are too little but DS has started getting a chores list to help out!

Hopefully youll feel upto more soon, if DP isnt bothered about the mess, chill out for a bit

Thanks for your replies i am going to try and tackle a bit day by day, and maybe get a cleaner in to do the bathrooms etc

i am also down for a home birth so i do need a clean house as midwifes etc will start calling prob end of summer.

Wonderif, I'm the same, 36w with spd, dc age 4 and 5 and the house is just grotty. I've got dh to vacuum upstairs once a fortnight, downstairs once a fortnight and clean the toilets. I can just about manage the sinks and the kitchen work surfaces. Everything else will have to wait. YUK.Dh just doesn't have time to do anymore.The mw still signed my homebirth form.

Flylady suggests when you're poorly doing only five minutes at a time. If you just do five mins an hour you'd be amazed how much gets done. Starting with big, visible mess, like tidying up toys with lots of pieces, or shoes and coats or the kitchen table. Then five mins wiping surfaces or chucking on a laundry load or straightening duvets or emptying bins. Soon it starts looking better and it motivates you to do five mins every half hour.

My midwife said men should do the hoovering and clean the loos when you're pregnant for health and safety reasons. Just thought I'd pass that on.