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How can I get DH to give up 'fish keeping'?

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misshardbroom · 26/02/2010 10:48

I have made a rod for my own back. About 4 years ago, DH had been saying how much he would like a tank of tropical fish, how restful it would be, what a charming addition to our home, etc etc.

So like a fool, I went out and bought him a tank and all the kit. I was heavily pregnant at the time, it's the only excuse I can find.

It's one of those Bi-Orb spherical things, with a heater and all the works to keep pretty little tropical fish.

The only problem is that after the initial rush of enthusiasm, DH has turned out to be the worst fishkeeper in the world.

This is how it goes:

DH spends an evening cleaning out tank, cursing a blue streak up to his elbows in slimy cold water.

DH replenishes tank with little bridges, pebbles and artificial greenery.

DH is then late home from work for about 3 consecutive nights because he's stopped off to 'look at fish'. Eventually comes home on 3rd night with bag of assorted mini-fish. If our luck is in, after a deal of faffing about, the fish make it into the tank (although they have been known to take a kamikaze dive over the side of the tank to their doom rather than waiting for the prolonged death that inevitably awaits them in Fish Room 101).

DH then forgets all about the fish other than popping some food in once a day, and within a couple of weeks we have an opaque sphere of stagnant water in the corner of the office. That's my office, so I have to sit here mumsnetting working listening to the overworked pump on the tank buzzing in the background.

Utter waste of money and space in the house, but whenever I suggest getting shut of it, he promises that he's really going to clean it up and keep it nice this time. And the fish refuse to die, inconsiderate little fuckers.

I need a new strategy. My mother suggests turning the pump off while he's at work so that it finally all packs in, but I think this might be a step too far.

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deaddei · 26/02/2010 10:51

I sympathise.
We have only ever had a couple of goldfish but I hated them, and took part in an assisted suicide
Maybe buy a cat?

misshardbroom · 26/02/2010 10:54

we have one!

She can't see through the murk of the tank to even register there's delicious little fishies in there.

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BlackYellowRed · 26/02/2010 10:55

DH says soak the floor and tell him the tank's leaking! PMSL. He was just the same. We had a tank in the living room and I hated the constant humming. He eventually stopped caring and they all died off.

He also suggested you bag up the fish, take them to a aquarium place and tell DH they all died.

PDR · 26/02/2010 16:54

OP you could be me.

Bloody fish.

We only have 2 left at the moment and I have suggested after they are gone, DH try goldfish until he can keep the little buggers alive for more than 24 hours.

JulesJules · 26/02/2010 16:59

I clicked on this, curious, as I assumed "fish-keeping" was a euphemism for something

PDR · 26/02/2010 17:00

haha sadly not Jules. I wish.

Bloody fish!

GrendelsMum · 26/02/2010 17:36

Well, for a start, how about not having the fish in your office, but in the living room?

misshardbroom · 27/02/2010 08:47

sadly, no room in the living room. The fish habitat is not only a tank, but a tank on a sort of pedestal cupboard. No, total fish elimination has to be the way forward. Cannot believe I brought this on myself.

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peggotty · 27/02/2010 08:51

Ok you may not want to hear this, but if they were in a bigger tank they would probably take less maintenance. Is it the smallest size of bioshpere thingy? Although it sounds like you're at the end of the line with the fish enterprise to me

WidowWadman · 27/02/2010 09:05

stagnant water - does the tank actually have a pump? Has the tank been cycled properly before the fish are being put in?

whyme2 · 27/02/2010 09:06

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OrmRenewed · 27/02/2010 09:17

I have a tank (was DD's ) with no pump. It isn't green and stagnant. I change about 1/4 of the water once every few months. It shouldn't get that grubby! There is something wrong. Maybe too many fish for the size?

OhYouBadBadKitten · 27/02/2010 09:21

could be that it is in direct sunlight?

(I regret dds aquarium but her fish are very healthy and long lived.)

misshardbroom · 28/02/2010 18:29

It does have a pump so perhaps 'stagnant' is too strong a word, but certainly a lot of green slime builds up on the sides of the tank and the water is murky. It currently has only two fish left alive in it, so I don't think that's the problem. And it doesn't get direct sunlight, it's not that well-lit a room.

I think peggotty is bang on though, even if it looked like SeaWorld, I am sooooo over the fish and just want rid now.

Perhaps the better use of the vodka or gin would be to pour it straight down my own throat and then I might reach a state of blissful oblivion about the fish tank and everything else that needs doing!

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IsItMeOr · 28/02/2010 18:36

Wait for those last two to die, then freecycle it, so some other poor woman has the problem . I worry (for about a millisecond) about what any partners of the people coming to collect our cast-offs do for space .

notcitrus · 03/03/2010 12:25

SOunds like too much light if you're getting algae buildup - can you have the light on for less long and shade it somehow?
Apart from dropping some food in every day or two, it shouldn't need maintenance except for a half-hour clean once a fortnight.

Alternatively, Bi-Orbs sell quite well on Ebay...

whoopstheregoesmymerkin · 04/03/2010 15:47

we had this too, with a huge eff off tank and all the trimmings. Eventually it was the even HUGER electricity bill that sounded the death toll.
Heaters, pumps etc it all costs a fortune. Just tell him you can't afford it anymore!

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