Tuesday Fly - the thaw sets in (hopefully)

[Wolfcub]

morning all

I tried posting on yesterday's thread but it wouldn't let me. Probably a good job really as it was a bit of a rant. I am working from home today once I've taken ds to my mum's/ I am fed up with spending over 2 hours to get to work.

done
bed made
lots of folded washing carried upstairs and put away
dw unloaded, reloaded and on
ds dressed
wm unloaded and reloaded
lunch made for dp
breakfast made for ds
chicken breast out of freezer for tea
rubbish out
recycling out
glass bottles in glass box
one of the kitchen surfaces cleaned
crap from fridge thrown out
dry washing from airer folded
wet washing hung up
bits and bobs packed to keep ds occupied at granny's he is such hard work at the moment that she is really struggling with him (as am I. tea have a big comradely hug from me).

morning Wolf thanks for thread. good luck with your list.

only a small list from me today as
I'm in uni.

done so far
got dressed
made packed lunch for ds
made dinner and put in slow cooker (beef casserole)

need to do
quick tidy through
wake dd
get dd dressed and fed
dc to school/nursery
go to uni

ds's schoool isnt opening til 10 all week which means less rushing in the mornings
however I am going o be late for my 9 am lectures

dd was up in the night she woke at 11 just as i was going to sleep. she had a snuffly nose which made her breathing bad. sorted her out then spent a couple of hours getting her settled down again. I shouldn't complain she doesnt get all her toys out or sing (usually, although it has been known!). she just wanted to get comfortable whilst hugging so having her rolling around trying to get comfy whilst hugging was not working!
think i went to sleep first in the end

Tea wolf and all others who are having a less than reaxing time with little ones at the momment, hope you all have more peaceful days today

Morning all

I am feeling more able to takle things this mornings.

I have decided to use our points system and allocate a point for good behaviour - worked this morning, so he got 1 for getting his wellies on (he hates them) and I relaised this is a flash point for him and us. Consistancy is the key.

Ruby He is rekmarkably stong, so restraint is out. He is usually the most placid child which is why I think it is so difficult.

Anyway, hopefully getting back to a routine will help.

Toddlers this morning

Hi all,
Am trying to get myself back on the fly-track. Initially by getting one job per day done (am working FT with plus a baby - cut me some slack while I get myself together!)

Yesterday - clean the loos
Today - Hoover

Hi seabright
Hi Wolf and dyls have good days
TM In my experience the trigger for tantrums is tiredness, plain and simple. Mine only ever have tantrums when they are tired, for whatever reason. Which is why my two get their 12- 13 hours sleep every night so I get nice placid children. Less than 12 hours and they are monsters. Like me really if I don't get 8 - 9 hours sleep (always)!!!

Well I've had a little sob. DD has gone to nursery for the first time this morning. In she went, not a backward glance at all, she was so excited and happy to go. I feel like another stage is gone, my youngest needs me that little bit less. Better shut up I'll get started again. I did some piano practice to take my mind off it but that's brought it back again!

I am looking around the kitchen, it really is in need of a good clean. Perhaps I will put my mind to it this morning. DD has gymnastics class at 1pm for the first time, which we're looking forward to as well.

BBL

mornign all
wendy nothing wrong with sobbing at all, it made me cry even more that DS2 didn't want me to stay Hope all goes well with gymnastics.
seabright one job at a time, gets things done
teamonster so good to hear you are feeling brighter today, we have a sticker chart thing for good behaviour, our problem that we have is we stop doing it when they are being good, so in essence they get rewards for periods of bad behaviour. They do seem to love choosing a sticker to put on their charts and they get a reward when they have a full sheet of stickers. A parenting course we went on a cople of years ago said that children test boundaries to check they are still there, boundaries make them feel safe and secure so as long as you stay firm and remind them what the boundaries are then they will grow up happy balanced children, (not that this is easy thing to deal with AT ALL!!)
Dyls hope you have a good day at Uni
Wolf enjoy working from home hope you manage to get some stuff done.

Have been out this morning taking the details for a wedding cake just got to pluck up the courage to price it correctly and not undercut myself.

Have done the dishwasher
made the beds
put a load of washign on
taken boys to school
need to get other stuff done

being kind to myself today not going to push things to much.
BBL

Morning all

Sorry I have been away since last week but I was feeling awful so trying to rest as much as possible. Went to dr's re numbness etc and he thinks its either calcium deficiency or anxiety, I said i didn't think it was anxiety as usually I have panic attacks so i'm booked for some tests on 19th. Went home and realised after talking to DH that I was stressing about the snow and travelling in it and driving in it, breaking down, slipping, crashing and letting people down but not getting into schools etc to volunteer. I decided to check this out everytime I had an attack and that seemed to prove the theory so I asked DH to let me drive around this weekend in the snow and after initially panicing me, it made me alot better. I also made it to the gym a couple of times and this seems to have helped me to work out my worries a little and although i'm still having numbness not quiet as bad.

We also appear to be having a little bit of a thaw here, I can see some patio and grass so thats helping. DD had her first full day at nursery yesterday and was so excited and loved it but today woke up being sick and with a temp so we are both off school again today.

So my jobs today are to try and finish my assignment (I know i've been doing it over a week but with DD around i'm not getting far and its really hard), give dd lots of cuddles and mummy time and try and look through my sign language notes for tomorrow night as its been nearly a month since I looked at them. Anything else is a bonus.

Right off to catch up on thread

BBL

Well I felt really sad when ds1 (9years)went back to school this morning without a backward glance - actually, that feeling has worn off,

now I am really enjoying tidying things up

My halfpenny's worth on tantrums is

the children have them when I am feeling tense and worried about anything the most obvious thing being DEADLINES (ie: limited amount of time to do things, child has to fit in to our schedule - decides not to)

Yest's homework was a case in point. I felt tense and angry because the childrn were told to research an animal, yet for some reason were not taken to school library to find one of many HUNDREDS of colourful accessible books on animals I spent 2 months cataloguing
so we looked up animals on internet - which I absolutely hate because children start fighting over computer and don't know how to copy information, and we don't have a printer etc etc.....and I have to do fractions...cue a fight with dd. Poor child

So I need to get a printer (hate technology)
stop being tense and stop thinking I am being judged on my children's homework. It is their work, not mine.
Also must stop thinking others are judging me in general, I am the calm and purposeful LEADER who listens to his troops.

Rant over.

DONE
Loads of housework done, just tackling drawers, floors and general silting up of amenities here

Good luck with pricing GREYSKULL - just believe in your professionalism - your cakes look SO worth the money

In a nutshell, the angrier and more tense I get, the worse the tantrum SEEMS and gets.

It think it's brilliant to identify flashpoints too TM, often little things that don't bother us, really annoy them (like his wellies)
I suppose the same could be true of grownups too

MC - you are like me, and you tie yourself in knots when you think people are expecting something from you - which you are not up to providing.

And that's why it's been a blessing in a strange way having ds at home. It seemed simple, if occasionally wearing, to provide for his needs. I knew I couldn't do more than I was doing, which was to enjoy his company, look after him, take him for walks, and just not stress about the wider world too much. It sort of let me off the hook ifysim.

grayskull, i'm a cake decorator too, i have a programme that prices up all my cakes, dh designed it for me. if you would like you can tell me what she wants and i'll tell you how much i would charge for it, so you can see what others would charge for the same thing? you dont have to its just a thought.

YES PLEASE! can we do it off line?

if you are happy to please will you email me.
bythepowerofgreyskulll @ googlemail . com (3 L's in greyskull)

thanks

Hi all.

Sympathy for wendy - I was when dd started school too.

Sympathy for Tea and wolf - No advice. I used to watch House of tiny tearaways and think - those kids are easy, she should meet mine . They are no trouble now (mostly).

Sympathies for MC - I have gone to pieces driving in the snow too.

All back to normal now so:

Today:
school run
feed DC
gymnastics
?buy food
change DC beds

I am considering joining a gym as a birthday present (to myself ), I am 40 next week .

afternoon all

I've managed to get a fair bit of work done this morning, including a lot of reading which I wouldn't get the piece and quiet to do in the office.

done
wm on

just having 5 minutes and then I shall get back to it

greyskull fantastic news about the wedding cake. Don't undervalue yourself your cakes are fab.

tea I'm glad you're feeling better today. I had to challenge mum this morning. DS was being tardy going into the house because he wanted to play in the snow and he wasn't listening to her. She immediately assumed he was being as naughty as yesterday and started with her own bad attitude. Once I told her he was actually being pretty good today she settled back down a bit and her attitude changed. Its that whole my attitude my behaviour affects your attitude your behaviour crap circle. You're so right about flash points too. I shall resolve to watch out for ours and try to find a positive way to tackle them.

Your morning sounds v. productive Wolf
Scatty - oh for the gymnastic skills of afour year old

Radio 3 on here
Well, kitchen is gleaming
ironing done
2 more loads of laundry
hoover has fused again and can't find the fuses
taken some decs up to the loft finally, and closed my eyes and removed one bag load of rubbish therefrom, also found useful reading lamp for dcs homework

TO DO
now attempt at playroom rescue - as I've thrown various things in there it's worse than ever today
and piano practise for 30 mins

Wolf - I notice the same thing with my 2.

Swan - well done on tackling the loft.

Today:
school run - done
feed DC - done
gymnastics - next
?buy food - no need
change DC beds - done

ruby that is a genius idea for the sheets - you ought to put that in next time mumsnet has a print a tip to win a competition.

wendy I hope dd had a good day at nursery

scatty I'm glad it's not just me!

afternoon lovely - roast dinner and lots of dancing, homework and no telly

managed to get cross with dd's teacher about last night's homework, so now I feel a bit stupid

children nearly in bed

Tucked in duvets never thought of tucking them in...

Hi all
Nursery and gymnastics both went very well and were loved by DD.
Now buying some wellies online as mine have holes in them! Noone local has any in stock. Now confronted with huge choice of wellies from cheapo ones to very expensive I am very bad at making decisions when there are lots of choices (Dad always says that's why I went veggie, as I used to take so long to decide in restaurants ).
swan the homework thing sounds very annoying, sure I would have got cross with the teacher too. I don't think teachers (me, included) realise the impact of the homework they set sometimes.
Right feeling good as I have made tomorrow's tea
Will see you all tomorrow, have yet to decide what to do with my morning without DD! I can see this is going to take some getting used to!

Hello to all oldies and newbies alike

a quick FLY by and a grouchy wave.

Nighty night

Ruby what a genious

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