Weekend Fly - have fun with your family

[wendyhappysmile]

Hello ladies

[wendyhappysmile]

Star Loved your muse on Richmond Park. Very stream of consciousness - you don't need grammar or to correct your punctuation!! Mrs Dalloway is by Virginia Woolf - it's brilliant but Woolf is a little difficult to get your head round at first. The style is 'modernist' which was very experimental at the time - the modernists saw their art as not just telling a story, but also the language itself as an art form (a bit like your musings on Richmond Park, actually!).
Knew there was a reason I used to be AM an English teacher!
Hi all
Had a very good night out at my friend's party last night. Wine flu though.
Doing nothing I don't want to today. Spent over an hour snuggled on sofa with both DC - no arguments! - with books and duvets. Now off to make some sponge ice cream from Mister Maker!
Have I discovered the cure to fighting bw siblings - my presence!? A bit ironic, that one

[wendyhappysmile]

I found out which friend lost her baby, it was a friend from toddler group. Don't know the details, just that her baby was stillborn after a full term pregnancy and a full labour. I just wordless about that.
ladies All go and hug your children, that's an order!

[swanriver]

There's been such a lot of screaming and shouting in this house this morning from all of us that I feel completely drained and sick at heart.
Back from church, thinking of your poor friend Wendy. Lots of hugging in church anyway, as feeling very low about this morning's bad atmosphere in house - but then dh met us outside church and gave me a hug, so I suppose that's all we can do to get through bad times. Saw loads of friends at church which always cheers me up; other families can be a real tonic.
He's taken the kids off so that I can clear rubbish which is very kind of him.
Done some more grocery shopping and mealplanned for next week with what's already in fridge.
Anyway, chin up me

[wendyhappysmile]

Poor you swan. it is very draining screaming and shouting but gets a bit hard to stop once everyone has started, doesn't it? I am chilled today after my evening out.
And I suppose I have life in perspective after the news of my friend and her baby

[swanriver]

I suppose that's why I feel so down -
everything should be happy - no financial worries, 3 beautiful kids who sleep through , free time, 4 grandparents (though not nearby) kind helpful (though bolshy)husband, lovely friends, nice house - so why do we spend all our time quarrelling -what's wrong with us?
Anyway rant over...off to finish line

[TeaMonster]

Swan I think we all feel like that at some point and the darker nights dont help at all

wendy One little bit of advise, please talk to your friend, dont just send a sympathy card, but also acknoldge that this was a baby. I had a friend who went through the same and was truly devistated when people skirted the issue. Also I lost twins quite late on and they were babys if that makes sence.

We have had our first argument for ages this morning. I am just tired, but DH has been lovley and took the boys out for a couple of hours.

In that time I have

Mopped the ground floor
Ironed
Put most of the boys clothes away
some on airer
Made more pasta sauce
sewed a new swimming bag for DS1 with lovely ABC cath Kidston fabric.

[wendyhappysmile]

Thanks Tea, you are right, I am planning on visiting this week, and perhaps taking something practical like M and S ready meals and just a hug and 'I am so sorry' - what else can I say. I think at times like this in a way it is an opportunity for me to be the best friend I can be to someone who is truly in need - does that make sense?
swan I often feel exactly the same as you - that I should be happier than I actually am. I think that I look at my friends who are less financially sound, less fortunate than us in other ways too, and they are happier than us - and I too think, what's wrong with us? I think that I just over analyse too much instead of just getting on with it.
Oh well, it is getting to that ratty time of day here too. DH is cooking tea for us all, and MIL and FIL.
Prob busy later watching various TV catch ups but will see you all tomorrow.

[swanriver]

Afternoon has gone much better...
looked at Mrs Dalloway text properly

taken loads to tip
oven and drawers to go...
swept floors, shook out mats, 3 lots of laundry
made a delicious haddock,sweetcorn,leek and mushroom pasta bake (hope I'm not going to be picking out "bits" for next hour) for tea

poor dh had horrid afternoon with children out, thnk he realises it is not just us disagreeing that mkes them behave badly
anyway he agrees we should do serious Autumn walk with them next time

now need to serve supper/tea
sew on brownies badges on sash in front to tv later
put away dry laundry

hope your party was exciting RUBY and not too scarey!

[scattyspice]

Oh they are gorgeous Ruby - get them! You must be shattered with dh away. Will he be home for a while when returns?

Swan - sympathies re this morning. I had a good chat with a friend today who said that basically we all tend to romantacise family life when really it is all rough and tumble.

Tea - I am sleep deprived too, DD is sleeping worse since she started school not better .

Star - sounds a lovely weekend

Have been busy today. Took DC to a roller disco party . They were amazing (considering DS is too nervous to ride a bike and dd is barely out of a buggy) after a couple of laps they pretty much had it!

This aft I took DS to ASDA for halloween costume (he will only wear fancy dress if it is the same as everyone elses). He went through all the toys and identified exactly what Santa should be bringing (very useful as he has quite specific tastes). Also noticed Asda toys are 1/2 price until Nov so may nip back in the week (on my sleigh ).

Parents eve tomorrow .

[SimplyWantsAMagicWandPlease]

Good evening everyone.

Sorry to hear about your friend Wendy.

I'm not sure what to do this evening. I'm tired from swimming as I pushed myself much harder today. For the last 20 mins or so there were just 4 people in the pool in total so I looked at another swimmer to see his technique and then I copied it. I can now swim a whole length of breast stroke putting my head under the water and taking a breath each time my head comes out of the water (remember, I have v poor co-ordination so moving arms, legs and head correctly and also breathing regularly is tricky for me!) I can also do it one sided with front stroke i.e. head in the water, right arm over; turn head left and out of the water, breathe and left arm over. I bet I look pretty ungainly but I don't really mind. I've got a stone to lose and it's one way of losing it! Okay. I'm off now. See you tomorrow.

[swanriver]

Scatty, now dd has just enough money in her moneybox (earnings really, from good deeds )to buy herself a pair of rollerskates...We bookmarked some this afternoon strangely enough.
I think her next goal (to spur her to violin practice, table laying, homework and speedy dressing)will have to be those DOC MARTENS Ruby. Otherwise I think I cannot afford them.
Anyway need some new shoes myself

Ruby, I HAVE scheduled all sorts of things I like into my week. [Simply - I am definitely taking a swim tomorrow to try your breathing challenge] The only thing is they consistently clash with dh's idea of my working week. Anyway we don't argue about fun, only religion and groceries.

TM - that must have been devastating losing the twins so late - there are so many if onlys in our lives aren't there, it is difficult to reconcile ourself/hold tight to present blessings.

Wendy, you sound like a wonderful friend.

[Starbear]

Ruby Very good tip. Life isn't all smooth sailing. I think it's the mediocre that gets me down. A little events planning lifts DH and myself out of a mood. I sometimes I wish I was on my own and free. Then I remember the times I sat all day in my dressing gown watching Star Trek Next Generation on cable! wishing I had a bloke and a baby! Grass, green..... I got rid of cable.
Wendy great idea, some food & bits with a hug will help. My sister sent over Tesco delivery flowers, ready meal & choc's. I made a friend Shepherds pie when she had PND she still remembers it fondly.
Simply I have apparently (info from DH) a screw kick so pls don't copy me Good luck and I might join you I need to lose 1 stone (and a bit)
going to download pics of our garden frog for Ds's 'what I did at half term' diary!

[Wolfcub]

monday over here