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Weekend FLY - Family time!

44 replies

SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY · 26/09/2009 08:03

Hello to all.

My PC is on a 'go slow' this morning. Grrr.

www.flylady.net/index.asp

Back in a mo!

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TeaMonster · 27/09/2009 08:12

Morning Groucy I am sure Jnr was just saying what he heard, pesky children. Take things easy and we need to all arrange a meet in York soon.

grouchyoscar · 27/09/2009 09:10

Tea A meet up would be just brill, it really would.

Yeah, my to do list

Get GOjr to do some reading n writing practice
Get the washing dry and put away (just pegged out)
Clean the porch
Wipe the outdoors UPVC
Clean indoor glasswork
Vac front room
Tackle some garden issues (if I can be bothered)

Tum te tum

wendyhappysmile · 27/09/2009 11:36

I am at GOjnr's language but like you say it's just what is said at school. I think you just need to teach him it must stay at school!
I am at my wit's end with my DS - he is horrid horrid horrid and so tired. Didn't go to bed til 10.30 last night as we were at a party, but still up at 6.30. The last few weeks he is just defiant, whingey, nasty, hitting, screaming, stamping his feet - just horrid. I keep losing my temper which isn't really helping as I know I am just reinforcing the behaviour and showing him it's ok to behave like that
I need to re-focus I think. Everyday, DD and I have a lovely day, and I'm a great mum, then as soon as I pick up DS from school I just lose it within minutes. He is so demanding on my attention - between him and DD it must be 90/10 on the attention percentage. it's draining me tbh.
Oh well, I think I'd better go and calm down. Off to MIL's for lunch which I am not looking forward to, I'm not in a visiting sort of mood tbh. I might come home and do some sorting out - house is a tip with the bedroom being done in the last month (wardrobes done! still some glossing to do in there and touch ups of paint) so I need to get cracking.
Having a Pampered Chef party on Thursday night so need to make the house sparkle and go and buy nibbles and wine etc before Thursday.
Will BBL

TeaMonster · 27/09/2009 11:58

wendy You sound like I did. DS1 is such a challenge sometime, but the fact is he is a four year old boy and needs to let off steam and the contrast between boys and girls is huge.

I took Swans advice and we have been going straight from school to the park with snacks and drinks with another mum. The boys then play for about an hour and I find this really helps. He holds it all together at school and needs to let it all out. This really helps and also opened my eyes to the fact that all four year olds are like this.

Also I am really strict and we dont do late nights or partys. We made sure we were home and back for 8pm last night. OK we miss out, but DS1 gets up at 6.30 no matter what time to bed.

I am sure you are a fine mum, but you prob just need a break

Jas · 27/09/2009 12:18

Will read and reply later, we're going ut for lunch with dps sister

Just put cake pic on profile for you

TeaMonster · 27/09/2009 12:36

Jas I adore the cake - weel done you and enjoy lunch

swanriver · 27/09/2009 14:16

Wendy, they still all scream when they come out of school, or not exactly scream but start bombarding me for personal attention . If I am at all stressed it is quite impossible to take, sometimes I have to take a deep breath and approach it differently. If I came out of school, what would I feel like?
One thing is for sure, they hate me talking to other mums.
Often they are desperate for a pee, but for some reason hanging on till hometime, so I have to frogmarch them to toilets.
Sometimes they are in an obsessional state about some child that they want to play with or go to park with.
Usually they just want their own territory back and a little routine after school so they know what comes after what, whether it's park, snack or telly. It almost has to be same every day or they can't cope.

swanriver · 27/09/2009 14:37

TM - that's a very good point, how lucky we are to have all these activities for our kids to do - and that they do LIKE doing at least some of them

We've had a lovely morning
Church - dd wearing her finest dress
Offered myself as a catechist [gulp - meeting next week] as both twins making first communion this school year and thought I might be able to help with some of the other groups.
wandered round pound shops and Iceland to spend pocketmoney and buy groceries
dh has gone out with ds2 to cinema
he seems to have cleared up SOME of the ivy

Lots of tidying necessary now
then will see if I can take two kids for a swim

scattyspice · 27/09/2009 18:56

Hi all .

Grouchy My DS said 'I'm gonna kill my F'ing family' the other day actually I laughed as it seemed so bizare coming out of his mouth. It turns out he'd got it off you tube (I didn't know he could get onto you tube).

swan I loved what you said yesterday about DD taking style influence from her violin teacher. I think often the benefit of the extra activities is the time spent with other kids (not just those in their class) and time with other adults. DS quite likes the twenty something girls who take gymnastics.

wendy sympathies. 4yos are hard work!

We have been to the Mela (Asian festival/funfair) today in Newcastle. Lots of curry (me), dodgems(dh), merrygo rounds(dd) and blooywood dancing (DS LOL). I think I nearly had a stroke on a spinning teacup though!
Ds and DD had a full on fist fight in the interactive science tent and had to be physically separated (if it makes anyone feel better LOL).

Done:
ironing
laundry
sandwiches
reading (ds)
bags packed

To do
sew DDs wooly hat

wendyhappysmile · 27/09/2009 19:01

Thanks swan and TM - I have been doing all of the above - activity ready straight after school, snack, drink and it is better but still awful sometimes. We don't usually do parties either til late, but this wasn't a grown up party. It was DS and DD's best friend who was 5! it started at 6 pm and we didn't eat til after 8 - including the children! I had given mine snacks at 5pm thinking it would keep them going not realising it would be so late! They only live round the corner from us so DH and I could both have a drink. Anyway there was no way to get away much earlier really as the birthday cake and singing didn't come out til 9.30!!
Thanks for the reassurance, Swan and it's good to think of it from their point of view, too. I am nearly always shattered by school time (from not enough sleep ) so i need to sort that out - like I said, re-focus!

MIL's was ok actually and had a good talk about Ds's party.
BBL

OrdinarySAHM · 27/09/2009 19:47

Galen, Hope the visit from relatives went ok and you now feel relaxed. Why do relatives think that just because you are related they can be impolite and disrespectful by criticising and nagging when they wouldn't be like this with anyone else?! I hope they were nice to you.

Wendy, I wish I could have a new and bigger wardrobe as I share a small one with DH and it's so jam packed there is no point ironing anything as it would be immediately crumpled again. He won't let us get another one though as he says we own too many clothes including lots that we don't wear (he's got a point about the ones we don't wear that are taking up space).

Jas, Glad the party went well.

Swan, does your DS1 like his singing and is it something he asked if he could do? I think if DD started to get less good at ballet than the others but still enjoyed it, I would just let her carry on doing it the way she wanted to do it, but if she stopped making an effort to try to do it properly it might be a sign that she didn't really enjoy it and didn't want to do it anymore. I really don't want to pressure them to do things they don't want to do.

I am worrying about extra curricular stuff as well as the kids have only been back at school for 2 weeks yet I feel that maybe I have let them get overloaded with activities already and it will wear them out too much. Mondays DD does ballet but I have to take DS there as well which is less relaxing than staying at home. Wednesdays they see friends who they have been seeing since birth, Thursdays they see other friends they haven't known as long but one of them is DS's best friend his own age outside school and the others are girls who are DDs age rather than the boys she sees on Wednesdays and she likes to have friends who are girls. This Friday DD and a girl in her class want to have a playdate and I feel I have to let her have some playdates with friends from school as well. So they will only be able to spend time at home on Tuesday and we will have to do reading books and DD's spellings practice because we are hardly in during the rest of the week. It seems like a lot for them and I'm not sure if it is too much or not. When DS says he wants to do something eg football or something it will get even busier.

Starbear, you've done such a long list on a weekend!

Galen, just read that the visit did go well so that is good!

Grouchy, how old is GoJr? Just so I know what age my kids are likely to tell me to F off! What is the best way to deal with them repeating bad language they have heard at school?

Teamonster, your SIL sounds like a Saint! It's interesting what you say about middle class peer pressure to get your kids doing a load of extra curricular stuff. Is that a big factor in why people do it? I don't feel peer pressure but the children's 'playdates' are as much about me and their mothers socialising as the children so if I cut down on them I risk making the mothers feel I don't want to see them.

Wendy, that has made me laugh that swearing must "stay at school" - I am visualising them effing and blinding and shocking their teachers all day at school then coming home and saying "Oh Good Afternoon dear mother, please may I have a healthy snack".

It sounds like you are having a tiring time with your DS at the moment! Is there anything causing it?

Scatty, LOL @ full on fistfight in Science tent! Although I'm sure it wasn't funny for you at the time! The point is though, that all kids are blimmin naughty at times and we shouldn't feel it is only ours. It is comforting to know we are not alone!

Stuff done this weekend:

-did reading books Sat am in bed
-DD spelling practice
-kept dishwasher done
-iron school uniforms and DH shirt
-make school packed lunches
-get present for DD's friend to take to party earlier
-get threadworm treatment for kids (arrrrrgghh! I feel dirty and ashamed)

Jas · 27/09/2009 20:08

Evening

Just thinking I should do some personal messages and you beat me to it with that huge post OSAHM
I'm sure I must have known you in a previous incarnation....can I have a clue, please?

Grouchy - Very young (preschool) swearing stopped if ignored (DD1 called to me across the local charity shop at 2 "look at me, I'm a little F*er", but I ignred and she didn't do it again.
Over 4/5 they know the words, but understand they aren't allowed to use them, even if they hear daddy say them....
Lately I have made dd1 look up the meaning of words if she uses bad language, and told her she should know what she is saying and be sure that is what she means. So far it has helped her understand why I don't want her to say things, or why people might be offended.

She described a tv presenter as a spaz recently but I'm fairly sure it isn't something she will do again.

I've lost track f what else I wanted to say.....I may be back later.

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SimplyIsGoingToLearnToFLY · 27/09/2009 21:27

Hello to all. I just popped on to read up on what everyone has been doing. Nothing much to report from me. Ds and dd have been busy, though. Ds slept under the stars last night and was skinning rabbits and making rabbit stew and bread with chocolate pieces in it (bleugh!) during his scout event. Dd has today been playing football, working, visiting her bf and has just got home. I've been doing some taxi-ing around and sewing and paperwork. See you all tomorrow. Nos da! Good night!

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SimplyWantsAMagicWandPlease · 27/09/2009 21:38

I've changed my name a bit. I like to change it a little bit to something topical occasionally!

Starbear · 27/09/2009 21:52

Hi, All had a lovely lazy day as a reward for yesterday. Got up let DH lie in. Then made a picnic and set off with Ds to Ashdown Forest. Lovely hill walk (my passion) map reading with ds got a bit tricky. Didn't find the windmill but promised Ds we would go back with DH & find it. Sat in a meadow with Ds doing Woodland Trust Nature detective list and looked at our beautiful world. Had a cup of tea at the LLama Park Didn't go in £5.95 for adults £4.95 for kids to look at some long legged sheep! meet DH at friend' house, they cooked dinner. DH has ironed all of Ds uniform, polished shoes and clean kitchen. Catch up tomorrow as I'm stuffed now and sleepy

swanriver · 27/09/2009 22:34

Done
tidied kitchen
swept floor
sink, recycling
DID NOT go swimming (kids were vegng with top trumps etc)
sorted out PE kit for tomorrow (they are wearing it to school for some event/photo etc)
tidied our bedroom, put all videos back on shelf, clothes in cupboard and laid out tomorrow's

OSAHM - he loves singing (deep voice), and sings in non-school choir (2 years now)but doesn't fancy being told how to sing or the practice, so we are just giving dd lessons now (Teacher rang today and we decided). My friend is the singing teacher so all a bit delicate mixing professional/personal issues - thought I would try him out as the next Bryn Terfel but it is not to be...

TM - BAND? - what was your instrument?

I'm off to bed now
Stream of consciousness/tomorrow's list: ironing workshirts
PE kits to wear, bills to pay, waterbottles, kitten food first thing, child deposited here at 10.30 to look after for friend, ring bank again, home bless a bit, start thinking about Xmas presents on internet, bedspread for dd's room, put away junk in corridor,IVY, find carkey

swanriver · 27/09/2009 22:39

Starbear - your hillwalk sounds wonderful .

TeaMonster · 28/09/2009 09:14

psst you can find us here No shouting I have a headache

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