Friday Fly-Date not well not for me maybe for you lucky ladies

[EHM]

Morning ALL

Ellie seams much brighter so we are off to Soft Play as requested the minute she woke this morning.
starbear I agree with simply it usually me doing the foot putting-then turn myself inside worrying about it. I am sure all will be ok.

Right be back with mission & catch up with yesterdays thread.

Hi all .

star thats just like me to change a wet bed then forget to put a nappy on! (my 4 yo is like Niagra Falls when she's asleep!)

EHM hope you're ok. You must be feeling in need of some time together.

simply I'd love to go to Xmas meet up (and to meet you girls) but Newcastle is too far away .

Ord Well said.

Today:
Dad is coming for the weekend. I'm really pleased as I felt sad when we couldn't go down in the summer. He is happy to leave step mum with a friend for 2 nights, I think he will benefit from the break. Tomorrow we are going to a Steam Rally , right up dad, dh and ds street (me and dd can sit about and eat ice creams).

BB Sun or Mon. Good weekends all.

afternoon all
Busy on here today

Am going to attempt individuals in a min!
Feeling better today - energy and motivation have returned somewhat!
Still need to tweak morning routines for smoother running I think....still pondering (half heartedly!) school dinner options...

But have had fairly productive morning:

6 DC up, dressed (including locating various missing school cardigans and shoes )
Breakfast
Dropped DH to Bus stop
Sent DS1 off
Cleared breakfast stuff
5 min room rescues: Our room, littlies room, girls room
S&S downsatirs bathroom
Laundry reboot
School drop off
Home
Walk dog with DD4 and DS2
Snack for DD4 and ds2
tidied dining room, reorganised new set of shelves, paper work sort out, mad temp filing boxes out of cereal boxes (look rubbish but work till I get to the shops LOL)
Sorted out surprisingly huge ammount of paperwork (school, dancing, scouts etc...) and filed.
Filled in milk money form and wrote cheque
Did Protein deep treatment on my hair LOL
Tidied , reorganised and cleaned (sort of cleaned !) Futility.
Swept floors - now awaiting mopping
Laundry reboot again
Lunch DS2
Early drop off for DD4
Home - lunch me
DS2 nap
Laundry reboot (yes AGAIN!!)
tidied kitchen incl hotspots
DW on

Now: Cuppa and chilling time for 40 mins (It is Friday LOL)

Still to do:
School pick up
Dinner - homemade pizza - dough in bread maker
Clean washing away
S&S upstairs bathrooms (seems not to fit in my mornings anymoe )
Dust bedrooms

Jobs for the weekend
Tidy out playhouse and back garden generally
Sow green manure seed in veg patch
Finish planting bulbs in front garden
MOP FLOORS!!
Buy PE shorts for DD1 (lost hers already )
Buy new pumps for DD4
Buy water bottle for DS1

No doubt will think of more LOL
Right off to catch up on thread...BBL

scatty hope you have a lovely weekend with your dad. I'm sure the breakwill do him, though it may be hard for him to leave your Step mum. Have a great wk/end

star forgetting to put a nappy on DD4 is normally DH's trick - although I am always the one toget to change her in the night when he does LOL
Enjoy your 20 winks

scatty have lovely time with your Dad I am sure he will enjoy the break too.

I am just being a soppy cow After our holiday I noticed how much we needed the time together-not only as family but as a couple.

Right Ellie has perked up & couldn't decide on soft play or cinema.

So I've taken charge & booked tickets as a treat for us both. We off very shortly to see "Cloudy with a chance of Meatballs'

Thats if missy can tear herself away from her toys.

galen wow thats-you deserve month than a 40 min break

AM also confused not sure if I've agree to go to Meet Up in London or Newcastle?

galen wow thats some list-you deserve more than a 40 min break

Ordinary sahm great post. Yes I think SAHM can be undervalued and the most important thing is to learn to value yourself whatever you do, and be proud that you are doing whatever you feel is the best for you and your family.

star Bumsex....Indeed LOL School places is a highly contentious and stressful topic. At the end of the day everyone has to do what they feel to be the right thing for their dc...

ehm hope Ellie perks up. Sorry bout stress with DH...hope you van sort something nice for anniversary on his return.

simply yes lists before bed work very well I find.

grouchy hope you get through long day OK

TM hope day going smoothly

everyone-else Hi!

EHM X posts - glad Ellie is feeling brighte. Enjoy cinema!

Arghh! 28th November is the Battersea Ball which I've already paid a deposit!!Typical. Scattyspice I might come up to Newcastle! If you don't hold it on 28th November.
Sorry Simply & EHM
Galen yep! It's normally DH that does this that's why we've got rubber bed protector on our bed as well. TG! he wet the bed just on that spot! Both mattresses are fine. But the house looks like a Chinese Laundry now! The sun is out so it should all dry soon.
TM enjoy the party.

Can't make meet-up as Diary says it is Ds's Xmas Concert [amazing that I wrote something in diary - bit like you said Simply - can't believe how many things I forget until I see what I remembered the night/week before!]

Scatty - happy your Dad can get a break to see you all and know you're all there for him.

EHM - just all feels so complicated weaving different responsiblities together - you let one person down, or another or then oneself -never solved really.

Starbear - quite agree on trespass matter. Learnt a lot from friends in every shade of SAHM to WOHM (is that what you meant?)All we can do is what best suits our own family situation and not think we know answers to other people's arrangements.
{although sometimes answers seem blindngly obvious

Galen - what an inspiring post!
Sorted Paperwork makes one feel soo much better, poison otherwise.

Now:
Finances still in disarray, waiting for 3.30 for resolution Should be fine, just bad timing.
Worked all morning in library - very good vibe and persuaded some kids to take out books on Sharks instead of Barbie.
Now putting stuff back in ds1's room

Later
singing lessons for two dcs (practice The Mermaid [? tune]again first)
get money
supper - more potatoes, ham, and veg in cheese sauce
dd's violin practice for tomorrow's lesson

Hello to all. Just a quickie as I'm about to go to the post office and then walk the dog.

Starbear Not to worry. Really.

EHM I think our names are down on the London one. When I come back I'll double check. Hope you enjoy the cinema!

galen I daren't post a list of what I've done today. It would be terribly short!

galen Take it easy your list is huge!
Going back to OrdinarySAHM everyday I wish I was a SAHM. But I think society (or the middle classes) expect your personality to be connect with your job! A job is a point of reference! When I see TMs blog I see a very creative, artist person. I would like to be know as a great cook and gardener, who loves to travel. My job is not who I am! I think families can be a team but it's difficult to divide the work that is need to run a happy family and the work that is need to support a happy family. As Intelligent women (& I suspect you all are) we should have brains to pick a team player as partner. I will teach my son to cook, clean & take care of his home. I hope and pray he has the emotional intelligence to pick an equal partner who he can care for and who cares for him. I don't mean in a material way either!

simply dont worry - you'll notice I didnt have a list yesterday LOL

Oh and yes I am still here oops ...have done some bits in between though!

money sorted - huge sigh of relief.

Am in planning mode so am updating lists for tonight and wk/end:
Today:
Buy popcorn on way home to watch stictly come dancing with the girls.

Wk/end
Winter clothes/coats down from loft to sort out next week....

swanriver Sort of.
Right back to supporting my happy family
Post papers to Canada Done
collect Radio(C/F) not ready
a little shopping, Done
buy masking tape, *done8
treat for me Done Red magazine
treat for Ds.Done
empty D/W done
sort out more laundry ready to go done
Find double quilt in loft done
make up both beds
dash around the house
newspapers in recycle
Fold clothes & put away DONE
Argh! should have changed my mobile contact must must do this on Monday!

Hello again FLYpals sorry, no time for individual hellos but you're all great.

Just finished my dinnerlady stint, I have to go collect GOjr in 30 mins but I have

DONE

Morning routines
Cleared 2 hotspots in the front room
Loaded WM
Put dry washing away

TO DO

Collect GOjr and do stuff for the school re his IPA thingt
Make his tea
Get his kit together
Off to rugby training
Home and hand over to DH

swan yay for books on sharks! Finances can be stressful....very tight week here...sigh...glad thyre sorted though.And yes doing paperwork sort out has suddenly restored me to feeling of being vaguely in controll!

I think it's important to have skills, Starbear, and use them. Sometimes we get paid, sometimes we don't. But that's what a job is for most people - a chance to feel directed and focused, and use one's talents.
I miss office life, I miss professional goals, but at same time I do not think I could manage more than volunteer role at moment. There is too much to sort out and too many directions in which I want to go, especially as I get older.
I also like working for myself; that's often hardest part of SAHM, realsing you ARE accountable to yourself, and no one else is really making you do things but YOU.

BBlate Sat.

I think you are right goals are important. That's why we are here we accomplish our big & small goals and then celebrate them together. I have just made our heavy bed with blankets! I'm very pleased. Tuesday I'll be pleased I accomplished a work based project but it isn't done with as much love Hey! must go and play with Ds Luv ya!

I'm here for 5 mins. Swan I must admit, if it wasn't for you lot I find household chores a real bore. Professionally, if we had the just the money I earn every month. I would give it up tomorrow. I'm waiting for my 22 year long service medal in December If I could stay at home I would volunteer to help Dukes of Edinburgh Award & scouts. Study a subject I love, I would see my friends & family more often & look after them better. get fit & strong. I would also have a beautifully clean &sorted house Ha!ha!ha!

Right for tea we are having Liver & onions, mash & veg. & I've got to wash my uniform!

evening all....
sitting in garden with glass of wine LOL

swan star yes I agree LOL it is hard being a SAHM and working for yourself - this thread helps a lot with motivation, goal setting and feeling valued etc...
and star wow 22 uears...that is fab. Rarely I miss my old work days...although may be going back soon...mostly down to financial reasons but must admit the thought of a change from the house and kids isnt altogether unpleasent...(just dont know how I will fit anything else in LOL)

anyway....happy Friday evenings all

BB Sat...

I was feeling incredibly lazy this morning and when I collected DS from his half day at school I couldn't be bothered to 'nag' him about getting changed, but do you know what. . . he did it without me saying anything! And...he had a go at undoing the buttons on his shirt without asking me to help! I was really proud of him! Maybe being so lazy I don't nag is sometimes a good thing!

I forced myself to do the dishwasher then decided to do some flute practice in case no time over weekend and then lesson on Monday. It went really well.

Collected DD and her and DS wanted to show me Eid cards they had made. I felt ashamed that I didn't know what Eid was and DD knew more than me! So we did a bit of Eid Research on the net together.

I felt so sleepy and unmotivated but forced myself to try to keep to my self imposed timetable and put each child in a bubblebath while doing homework with DS then homework with DD.

DS did 'writing' his name by using tracing paper and a card which I had written his name on lots of times underneath. Then he did recognising written numbers.

I used to bath the children by putting soap all over them and sponging them but lately I've just been putting them in bubble bath to play, then pouring the water over their hair, combing a bit of conditioner through to put off nits and rinsing with the bubble water. Do people think this is an adequate bathing technique or do you think I need to give them more 'scrubbing' than that?

...DD's homework was learning spellings and reading words from her last reading book which she found tricky the first time round. Not enough time to read the whole book and do spellings.