Please help me stop being so lazy

[SlovenlySlattern]

Have namechanged because this is embarrassing and kind of pathetic.

I'm also really useless at doing asking for help threads so will just summarise:

• I can't seem to make myself do the cleaning, tidying etc. I know I am lazy and have no self-discipline but I don't know how to get out of this pattern.
• I have in the past started something like Flylady which inspires me for about a week, maybe a few, and then either I start to slip back into old habits or something happens - e.g. one time both me and DS were ill - and I find myself back at the start again.
• This is causing problems between DH and I as he works all day and comes home and I have basically done nothing all day. I want to be a SAHM for DS but I feel I have to "prove" my worth by doing housework etc. However I am doing 100% of childcare and feel unsupported on this side of things. DS is 6mo.

I am SAHM and find it almost imnpossible some days to get much done as I'm constantly running around after DCs. Don't feel too badly but if you really do want a kick up the proverbial, have a long hard think about what you could be doing this evening if you did all the chores now........(I do this all the time and end up watching tv anyway! Arf!)

Seriously, though, my tip? Do things in 10 minute blitzes! I saw it on a programme once and it really worked for me! Just do ten minutes of something, it's amazing what can be achieved in just 10 mins, and then do something else for 10 mins after you've had a bit of a breather/done a feed/changed nappy/eaten a bar of chocolate etc!

You're asking a load of women sitting on MN to help you stop being lazy?

with a 6 month old it really doesn't matter if stuff doesn't get done.

My targets are to make sure the important stuff is done. Throw a load of washing on a day, not effort really is it? The machine is what does the work. Wipe down the kitchen worktops so they are clean. Nothin else really matters so long as you have clean clothes and don't get food poisoning.

Indith I was doing that as a bare minimum as I agree with you - the rest isn't that important and if I get fed up enough with it, I'd do it anyway - but DH doesn't think it is good enough and I suspect that is the problem.

Although I am now also behind on washing and the kitchen worksurfaces need clearing before I could wipe them - nearly every day.

10 minute blitzes are a good idea, thanks FM. I know I have done that before and it helped!

lol Indith good point! That expoains why I didn't get anything done at lunchtime!!! haha!

On that note, better do a ten min blitz now so I can feel sanctimonious about passing on my one lowly tip on housekeeping!

Things take less time than you think, time yourself doing a small task; mine was folding the clothes that I don't iron - as much as possible and then putting them away, takes me no time at all whereas I would be inclined to think that it takes ages

My dcs are much older, when ds2 was six months I was lucky that we were in clean clothes and I got ds1 to preschool

10 minute bursts are really good, Flylady is 15 mins, I am a flygirl.

Come to the Slatterns thread! We make lists of things to do each day, and rarely finish them. But we always do some of it, if not most. And you get people saying 'well done' and 'wow' and 'you're making us look bad' if you do a lot. You also get told to go put your feet up if it looks like you are doing too much.

i know im on mn now but i try and make myself stay off the comp altogether until 7 pm. 7 is what i call my time. as long as the washings done, the counters are clean, dishes washed and all rooms in a basicly tidy state then i get to do whatever i want from 7 onwards cause ds is usually in bed by then. i hate the thought of knowing i have to spend the evening ironing or cleaning. thats usually enough motivation to lift the hoover out and whizz it about. as the others have said, ten minute blasts. dont worry too much about setting a routine, if you find yourself with ten minutes during the day, ask if theres anything you could do. fold washing? windows? bathroom blitz? HTH