I am dreadful at domestic stuff, but have been really trying the last few months...
Get a filing cabinet. Seriously. A great big one. It has changed my life. Even though it looks ugly and is bloody huge, now that I have a proper filing system going on and actually use it, I no longer have piles of paper on every bloody surface, and can find bills, certificates etc really quickly.
Really good storage solutions:
Elfa storage systems inside wardrobes (or cheaper versions from Ikea)
Underbed storage boxes/drawers
Pretty storage boxes on top of wardrobes
Storage furniture (stools/bedside tables/coffee tables that you can put stuff inside...
...use all available space to store stuff away! Look at this site. A bit pricey in places, but some great space saving ideas.
I have also bought a lidded seagrass chest/basket for every room in the house (from John Lewis) which I can stuff crap in when I need to do a quick tidy up for guests coming over or just to get the clutter out of the way of an evening.
I have started a few little routines for getting the most basic household stuff done. I wash bedclothes overnight the night before cleaner comes, then bung them in the drier in the morning and ask her to make up the beds. It takes her 10 mins and she is happy to do it.
I definitely second ordering shopping online. I usually order on a Sunday for the shopping to come on the following Saturday morning.
Laundry - the only way I have found to get through it is to just DO IT. Once it's washed, dry it. Once it's dry, fold it and put it away. Dunno about you, but if I leave it for even half a day it will still be sitting in a pile somewhere a week later! . One thing that's helped is having quite a few separate laundry baskets - one for me, one for DH, another in the bedroom for bedding, a small one for tea towels and kitchen cloths in the kitchen, one for towels in the bathroom, one for DS, one for DD. Sounds excessive, but it helps me be organised about what I wash when.
HTH!